Long Story Short: I [26F] slept after work from 5pm and only woke up the very next morning at 6 am. I was mentally and physically drained so I wasn’t really surprised that happened.
However, I woke up to a very angry text from my boyfriend [26 M] saying that he is trying to communicate with me and I am not answering. Upon seeing that text I automatically replied saying that I was sleeping, justifying my why I fell off the face of the earth the night before.
He didn’t reply, so I called him after a few hours and he was pissed. He told me that he was so angry to the point where he deleted me from all his socials (while I was sleeping). This includes: Instagram, Snapchat, our shared photo album, and our shared YouTube playlist. Everything deleted just like that. I was really hurt as I was unaware that he deleted me everywhere, that he didn’t give me the benefit of the doubt and went straight to removing me everywhere.
He says that he absolutely hates it when he calls and texts and get no response and that it’s a trauma of his, so he took it very seriously.
I don’t know what to make of this situation. I understand how it’s frustrating to not get a reply but to throw a whole tantrum? And what makes the whole thing worse, I was genuinely sleeping the whole time that tantrum was thrown. I am so confused, and I want to hear insights on what you guys think. Is the tantrum justifiable?
Ps: It’s worth noting that we were planning on going out on a date tomorrow, and he still made all those reservations yesterday (whilst being angry at me).
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He deleted all of your socials?
If you have to apologise for taking a nap either accidentally or on purpose within a relationship and their reaction is anger, deleting your socials? – you are in a toxic relationship and I would get out of said relationship immediately
It’s definitely not worth noting he made plans while over reacting like a small child – it’s ridiculous and it’s not cute he did that
Edit: a small child would have I fact reacted better
Doesn’t sound like this man is ready for another relationship if it only took you passing out after work for him to block you on everything…
I suggest that he might not be a good option for a long term partner. I suggest you take this opportunity to break up. Staying with him only tells him that this behaviour is okay, which it isn’t. It’s a ridiculous overreaction.
OMG FFS, so sick of people weaponising their “trauma” to justify acting like controlling, manipulative, abusive jackasses.
He just showed you who he really is – believe it.
Nope. You are not his beck and call girl.
If he has trauma he needs to go to therapy and work on overcoming it. Although, actually that just sounds like a bullshit excuse for being controlling.
So don’t apologise when you did nothing wrong. And don’t validate his unreasonable behaviour.
He’s a controlling man baby who can’t handle his own feelings. Why would you keep entertaining that?
Hala oa naman sa padelete. Pero siguro nag overthink lang siya kasi almost 12 hours ka rin na di online. Tampo siguro is fine pero yung galit talaga, grabe naman. Try mo lang suyuin if want mo pa mag continue yung relationship niyo then if okay na kayo, find a time to communicate your issue with him para atleast aware siya
This is a him problem.
Not being answered on text is not a fucking trauma
That’s a HUGE red flag for abusive, controlling behavior. Do yourself a favor and read up on emotional abuse and leave this man. Unfriend him IRL.
For real.
That’s an insane reaction. I could understand being worried because they didn’t hear from you. But full on anger and deleting you if social media?! Please rethink this relationship asap. This all happened because you SLEPT. How is he going to handle REAL conflict? I would not trust this man at all and I would actually be kinda afraid or nervous to be honest. Such a big reaction for something so minor… I can’t imagine how he would react in a bad situation…
That’s a wild overreaction and completely unjustifiable. This man isn’t fit to be in a relationship. Either his trauma is so unmanaged that he needs to spend a lot of time in therapy before he even considers dating again, or more likely, he’s controlling and is using his trauma as an excuse to abuse you, so that you’ll walk on eggshells and be careful to not upset him again.
Let him keep you blocked. Block him back. Don’t accept this kind of behaviour, because whatever the reason for it, it will almost certainly get worse.
He wasn’t concerned about your wellbeing when you didn’t reply. He was furious that you didn’t give him the attention he thinks he’s entitled to.
Block him, go have a nap, and enjoy your peace.