My boyfriend(M21) was going to come visit me over the weekend. He’s basically only here for one day. The place he’s staying is about an hour away from where I live because there isn’t much to do in my area. Since he’s coming to my town, I had planned the whole day for when he comes.
He that he wants to hang out with his best friend for a bit too since his friend is also from the same place. Originally he mention about briefly seeing his friend after lunch for a little bit, but afterwards he proposed that we spend time together until after lunch then he would hang out with his friend from the afternoon until after dinner. He told me he still wants to see me after dinner but I feel conflicted. I had the entire day planned ( accounting for the fact that he will only be seeing his friends for just a little) and now he’s saying he wants to hang out with his friend after lunch. That means I’d need to figure out what to do on my own all afternoon and also get my own dinner.
I told him it puts me in an awkward position, I’d be waiting around for hours until he’s free again. He said the whole point of flying out (the flight is 6–7 hours) is to see me, and he doesn’t understand why I can’t just wait a few hours. (we’ll also have Sunday morning until he leaves at noon) I kind of see his point, but it also makes me sad, and I’m not sure if I’m being reasonable.
TL;DR: My boyfriend told me to wait for him when he hangout with his friends and i’m not that happy that I have to wait, but I’m not sure if this feeling is reasonable.
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This is bizarre- why would you need to ‘figure out what to do on your own all afternoon’? Won’t you be at home? You can’t just chill for a few hours while he sees his friend?
Why couldn’t he hang out with his friend up until dinner, and then invite the two of you to dinner? What’s wrong with meeting a friend? He’ll have a alone time with a friend than both of you together and then alone time with you.
Well, now you know where you fall in the priority list