So Beginning of the relationship He has been open to having only female friends, I myself have male friends no problem with it
I trust this man with everything and i move in with him on Tuesday
Any who, they have been friends since she joined his work a year ago.
recently he has been spending 10 minutes after work to hang with her ( when he got into the relationship with me he did stop and suddenly started again )
When he finished work he calls me like he does every time on the way home from work i heard a “Did you get her number from her” By his friends. when he finished talking with her. and he says “they were joking”
Last night he told me there is a last minute dinner for her for her birthday and he said its gonna be full of work friends
He screenshares all the time when we fall asleep on the phone together, so we have like youtube or something to fall asleep too.
But never had an issue opening his socials (we are public and open about our socials because we believe the whole no hiding shit in relationships)
But he said could he stop screensharing so he could message her and ask what time the dinner is.
But my gut is now telling me something is off and im shaking.
EDIT: He says she has a boyfriend 100%, and apprently my boyfriend knows her boyfriend and apprently he has known him since he worked at my bf’s job.
But on the girls socials there is no evidence of this said boyfriend.
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Trust your gut it’s there for a reason. If something feels off, it’s okay to ask for clarity. A good partner should be open and willing to ease your concerns, not give you more reasons to question. Communicate calmly, but don’t ignore your instincts.
“I trust this man with everything and i move in with him on Tuesday.”
Respectfully, I wonder if you in fact, “trust this man with everything.” It does not sound to me, from what you have written above, that that is in fact the case.
I therefore wonder if you think it’s a good idea for you to be moving in with him on Tuesday.
Am I correct in assuming that you are having second doubts about that?
He’s dating 2 women.
The cleanest thing to do is probably to ask him if you can read his texts and dms with her. It’s an invasion of his privacy and shows a lack of trust on your part. However if you believe the guy is cheating on you on general suspicion that will negatively effect your relationship anyhow. If it all checks out as harmless and friendly you will have to really go out of your way to make it up to him for being paranoid.