TL;DR I am unsure if me and my boyfriend are together and he doesn’t seem to want to communicate.
Me (27 F) and my boyfriend (26 M) have been together for almost a year and a half. Half into our relationship he got into a bit of an issue and he’s been paying off a lot of things making his financial situation difficult.
However, within the last few months I feel like he has stopped trying in our relationship he rarely asks to make plans together. He would try and make plans once every 2 weeks at most. If we made plans more frequently it was because of me. Sometimes he would go over a day without texting me back and I felt like he stopped taking an interest in my life altogether.
About 2 weeks ago I told him it felt like he stoped putting in effort and he just said sorry and then the next day texted me good morning while ignoring my previous message where I was trying to discuss things. This annoyed me it seems like he tried to ignore the issue when i was trying to discuss it so I didn’t reply for a few days and then asked if he still wanted to be together. He said it was difficult to say yes or no because he claims he still loves me but he feels like he can’t give me what I deserve due to his current situation. I told him I understood and I was okay with everything. But I guess I was just hoping to hold on until things got better with financial situation. So, I thought things were settled and I assumed we were still together but then he went a whole week without replying to me. So, I reached out and asked if everything was okay which he said yes. So I was confused and asked him if we were still together. He says he had a lot to deal with that week and he needed time to think. Now it’s been a whole week later and I still haven’t heard from him so I am not sure if I should reach out again or what to do at this point? Do I give him more time or reach out again?
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It seems like he’s been distant for a while. Reach out one last time to ask if he wants to continue the relationship. If he still needs time or doesn’t respond, it might be time to move on for your own peace of mind. You deserve someone who puts in effort
Don’t you have a decision in this? It’s not just up to him.
Why are
You leaving it up to him?
I will say that the vibe I’m getting is that he doesn’t want to be together anymore by what he has said-
However, he’s not willing to end it-
His actions do show though that he wants out-
You are not in a relationship. You should really evaluate WHY you’re chasing a man who is telling you clearly that he is uncertain about you.
He’s willing to slow fade your relationship without communication. He’s not displaying any characteristics that would make him a good partner. I.E.: communication, consistency, trust, respect, or valuing your emotional experience