Dear Internet Parents,
As someone in their 30s, I know that love doesn’t conquer all. Many things come into play on whether or not a person is right for you.
However, I am in a conundrum. My boyfriend who is bipolar ended up in psychosis twice this past month due to a manic episode brought on by losing his job and seeing his people killed once more on tv (hint: he is middle eastern). The episodes were magnified by drug use as self medication although I am mostly sober as a human.
Throughout both these hospitalizations l, the only thing he asks about constantly is me, if I’m ok and that he loves me. He can barely remember anything else.
I have focused on self care throughout and yet I don’t know if I can stay with this person after all this, and yet I also know how deeply I care for him too.
What am I to do, internet parents?
Comments
REMINDER: Rules regarding civility and respect are enforced on this subreddit. Hurtful, cruel, rude, disrespectful, or “trolling” comments will be removed (along with any replies to these comments) and the offending party may be banned, at the mods’ discretion, without warning. All commenters should be trying to help and any help should be given in good faith, as if you were the OP’s parent. Also, please keep in mind that requesting or offering private contact (DM, PM, etc) is absolutely not allowed for any reason at all, no exceptions.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
The thing about psychosis is that it’s often dangerous for whoever is the main person in their life. Your safety is your priority.
Never set yourself on fire to save someone else.
Do you want a lifetime of this drama. Do you want to have to support another adult person like this ongoing? Is this what you want your life to be?
Sorry he has such intense issues. But you can’t save him.
Protect yourself.