Boyfriend of 8 years blocked me on IG

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Am I Overreating? Need help coping on a healthy manner. Esp if I’m overreacting. My boyfriend got tired of me questioning his IG activities (he was caught lying, flirting, being slightly inappropriate with a topic of convo with a new female friend.) he still flirts by complimenting other women and that’s bothering me that im banned and they will have access to flirt back with him.

He thinks it will be healthy if I don’t see who he follows or what he does because it always turns into an argument. I spend an unhealthy amount of time looking through his page so I get that it could be healthier to not have that access. I’m just jealous that other women will get to see his posts and be able to connect with him in ways I won’t since he is constantly on there for both business and personal use. Any advice on how to cope? I know social media isn’t real, but it’s something we used to enjoy so much together.

Comments

  1. Admirable-Bid-904 Avatar

    Sounds shady to me

  2. ireallydont123 Avatar

    Hes commenting and liking other girls posts. Break up with him homie.

  3. IndigoTrailsToo Avatar

    He is refusing to be accountable for his actions.

    Him being shady in the first place is completely incompatible with your mental health. Add him refusing to take responsibility, it is doubly and compatible with your mental health and with you. Both of you are not compatible.

    When someone really likes you they don’t play these stupid games.

  4. Silly-Needleworker19 Avatar

    Wait, you’ve been with him and he blocked you from IG after he was caught lying, flirting and being slightly inappropriate with a new female friend? This sounds like a terrubke “relationship” with jealousy as its foundation. Get your head together / get counseling if you need some support and move the hell on. You’ve already wasted a lot of time on this dude who is more concerned about himself and what he wants to do than he cares about you. Ugh. So sorry.

  5. ImLowkeyKindaTired Avatar

    He definitely seems shady af, I suggest you set him down and talk,set down some “rules” and boundaries. But then again, you’ve been his gf of 8 years, and he blocked you on social media is showing that he probably has some issues.

  6. 3RNCRCS Avatar

    There is no law preventing people from walking away

  7. ayelady Avatar

    Unhealthy opinion , make a bogus page with a hot girl … I believe there’s girls who do this for payment also have her bait him see if he takes the bait the page gotta be realistic and exist for a long time so it’s better that you get someone else to do . You can watch him on a burner page is he private or not ?

    Truthfully is he’s flirting on the internet with other girls and giving them attention he’s probably cheating or wants to .

  8. ametrine888 Avatar

    Leave that bum. He’s obviously not a loyal partner.

    He doesn’t take your feelings into consideration and thinks blocking you is the solution. It’s not. You don’t trust him and you’re obsessed with looking at his page.

    This relationship is toxic and you’re not doing yourself a favor stay in a relationship where he doesn’t respect you.

  9. Original54321 Avatar

    Read your post back and pretend someone else wrote it about their boyfriend and the answer will be glaringly obvious lol

  10. cultofsynchronicity Avatar

    You are just a placeholder. Dump him before he trades you in and dumps you. He’s already shopping, maybe even test driving his new ride.

  11. No-Grape4971 Avatar

    I can kinda see both perspectives, on one hand you’ve set some boundaries and have expressed your concerns to him and He’s ignored all of that not even taking accountability for his previous and/or current mistakes.

    But I can also see that it would be frustrating having to reassure your partner over and over again that you’re not doing anything shady and them still not trusting you, but judging by what you’ve said it sounds like this is not really the case.

    He clearly doesn’t respect you or your relationship, you’ve continually tried to set boundaries and he breaks that boundary over and over again not considering you, your feelings or your relationship once, I would go as far as to say he’s gaslighting you, making you feel like you’re insane when he’s clearly either cheating or at the very least planing to.
    I would personally sit him down to have a long serious conversation about my concerns and feelings about the situation and either he changes his behavior or I’m leaving, try to set the boundary one last time you know.

    You could try to make it work but if he doesn’t put in the work or take you seriously it’s not gonna work.
    I have a feeling that maybe you two have gotten too comfortable in the relationship maybe you have fallen victim of the routine and he’s tired of that? I don’t know, either way talk to him, make him tell you the reason why he’s doing it, if it’s a fixable reason then you try to fix it and if it’s not then sadly your story ends there.

  12. paquemeinvitan3 Avatar

    Lmao girl he wants to block you online and you want to be with him?

  13. PeachFar5156 Avatar

    He’s a cheater leave him please

  14. CustomerReal9835 Avatar

    Umm how old are you guys

  15. jonnyrockets Avatar

    Both being childish.