Firstly, thank you for all the useful advice I was given on my original post. I was unable to reply because it was locked but thank you all.
Since I found out my (39F) boyfriend (40M) of 14 years slept with someone else, I broke up with him. He stayed living in my flat for 2 months (on a tight deadline) so he could find a home as he is jobless. He didn’t. He is now homeless.
His mum pressured me to have him for longer as there is a cold snap here and he’s on the streets but I said no. His mum can take him in if she is so worried.
I found out it was the lady he has been spending time with at the gym. I think he wanted to try that to see if it was better.
That is all. I now live alone (with dog).
TLDR: I chucked him out. He’s homeless.
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GOOD. Serves him right, maybe some nights on a bench will make him realize how shitty he was for betraying your trust, especially at that age.
Farting around with other people during a break is something one would expect from a teenager. Adults know better. He just chose to be a slimeball.
Hope his mommy has a blast dealing with that mess. Proud of you OP!!
Beautiful example of self-respect. You did the right thing. Life will become easier with time as you heal and find someone better. Look after you in the meantime xoxo
Good! I wouldn’t have even let him stay the 2 months… he found someone else… shes welcome to take him in… oh but wait… she probably didn’t know he was jobless and homeless and she don’t want him either now… “woopsie”… 😂 serves him right.
Can we get some context? Where is the original post? Your title says you were on a break?
2 months is more than enough time to figure something out. His poor planning is not your problem.
Breaks are technically breakups anyway.
Counterpoint- you were on a break, and he dodged a bullet from being stuck with 🦇💩😜 like you
You’re 40. There’s no such thing as a break in an adult relationship. Boyfriend of 14 years???
Good for u u took the trash out
That’s quite the shiny spine you have there. Well done on respecting yourself enough.
You are quite right, his mom can take him in, he isn’t your problem anymore. He is also a fully grown adult, capable of figuring things out.
Can you link your previous post please as it isn’t showing up in your profile or was it deleted/different account?
A break is a breakup… there is no cheating then. You can’t work on a relationship by being out of it. You just start a new one if you get back together. You had reasons to have the break, everything after that is post relationship.