Boyfriend stalking me?

I (28f) got into a fast-moving relationship with my boyfriend (31m). We’ve been together now for just over a year and didn’t even celebrate our one year. Within 2.5 months of knowing him, he moved in. After he made me feel forced to cut off my ex (who I was close to and trying to work things out with), I learned he has 3 kids with 2 different women and $10k in child support.

Early red flags:

He tracked my location and took me to my ex’s house to confront me after I tried to talk to him for support.

Got blackout drunk at his friend’s in another state, bit me so hard I could barely walk, then moved in right after.

Often dismissive/egotistical when I bring up concerns — “okay but” or “no, here’s why I’m right.”

Finances:

We’ve gone without groceries for weeks.

He says no gas money for local outings but will drive hours to see friends and buy them alcohol for helping move his truck.

Snuck out in the middle of the night to buy a broken sports car with payments while mine wasn’t running and the fridge was empty.

Safety issues:

At my grandparents’ farm, he tried to drive me back to my abusive mother after an argument. I said no repeatedly, tried to get out, and ended up throwing myself from the moving car. He barely acknowledged it afterward.

He requested to follow my friend on IG (they’ve never met) and follows random “spicy” women’s accounts yet claims IG did it on its own.

Today I got an AirTag notification — he secretly tagged my car “to see if I’d notice.”

He pays the bills and can be kind, but I feel suffocated, unsafe, and like my privacy and boundaries mean very little. I’ve told him I don’t feel in love anymore. I’ve been talking to my ex (not a perfect option either but someone I could see myself working things out with), but I’m scared my current boyfriend would show up there if I left.

TL;DR: Boyfriend rushed moving in, pressured me to cut off my ex, can be financially reckless, tried to take me to my abusers against my will, secretly tracked me with an AirTag, and brushes off my concerns. I feel unsafe but guilty about leaving. Should I leave now and go back with my ex or wait until my ex moves into a better place (of my choosing)?

I cannot live alone and family isn’t an option so another reason I feel forced to choose between these two men. I will hopefully have disability soon and can begin working towards having my own place again.