30M and 30F. Boyfriend had weed induced psychosis. He lied about how much he was smoking for months. I had to take care of him during this time. Cops were involved many time, lots of crying. He was hospitalized and is doing better. I don’t trust him with weed anymore and want him to not smoke again. I have given him an ultimatum. I can’t deal with a relapse. He is not smoking right now but states he might occasionally in the future. He says I am being unreasonable. He states he will control his usage but I have a hard time trusting him as he has lied about his usage in the past. Any advice on how to move forward?
Tldr; boyfriend won’t stop smoking weed after psychosis. Should I break up?
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> boyfriend won’t stop smoking weed after psychosis. Should I break up?
I mean yeah. Unless you want to deal with more preventable psychosis.
probably yes … are you sure thats all hes doing ?
If you don’t mind me asking, what were his symptoms of psychosis? ..I think I may be in a similar situation
Well you can’t control him
So either deal with it or leave.
I mean, stick with your ultimatum and see what happens. Be aware that rarely that can cause psychosis which sticks around after the person quits. Should probably also find out if he was using anything else.
Kind of needs a serious mental health evaluation
He’s an addict. Even if he does well will most likely relapse. Multiple times. That’s how realistic sobriety looks for many people. And that’s okay but you need to decide if you want to spend your life with him.
by the way u tell it its not just weed unfortunately imo he needs real help that sound like other substances including alcohol ans stuff like cocaine, speed etc.
Yes, you should. He’s risking his health and making you deal with it because he doesn’t want to give up weed. That is selfish as shit.
If he wanted to, he would.
Reccommend therapy. He needs to be in a better headspace before he can continue consuming pot (if he deems it so unavoidable for his future). He could have had an episode due to being in a point of his life where he is unfulfilled/unhappy and is using pot to fill in the cracks. Do more couples outings without drugs or alcohol.
He could have bipolar or schizophrenia.
After all YOU and he went through, he’s thinking of using it again?
Break up immediately, even if he says he’ll never use again.
While he may be out of the full blown psychosis he’s not necessarily well. A long time ago something similar happened to me. At the recently-released from hospital stage, I also wouldn’t commit to not using the substance again. A few months down the line, when I’d properly processed how terrifying the whole experience was, I decided I didn’t want to risk it ever happening again.
I would suggest not trying to pin him down on it right now. Obviously if you need to walk away that would be completely understandable. I just wanted to give my perspective as someone who lived drug-induced psychosis.
better unboyfriend him pronto