My bf (55m) and I (50f) have been together for 16 months and it seems he is always dealing with some emotional crisis whether triggered by ex, work, traffic, etc. I have always been supportive and understanding, providing space when needed. Today breakfast too longer than usual and I told him just to eat his bc mine wasn’t quite ready. He ate silently then retreated to his office. I visited after I finished asking if we could talk and he didn’t respond. Finally he said I knew he was dealing with things and I just need to leave him alone so he can work things out. I told him it was affecting me and that we can’t spend all of our time managing his emotions and that I have feeling and needs as well. To which he responded “don’t make this about you.“ After he left for work he sent this text: I’m sorry. But you can’t keep pushing me to talk. It has the opposite results. I’m heading to the shop. Have a good day. 😘
TLDR BF (55m) keeps me (50F) at arms length and makes it seem like I can’t have my own feelings bc his are the priority.
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You are way too old to commit to a shitty man.