My bf (55m) and I (50f) have been together for 16 months and it seems he is always dealing with some emotional crisis whether triggered by ex, work, traffic, etc. I have always been supportive and understanding, providing space when needed. Today breakfast too longer than usual and I told him just to eat his bc mine wasn’t quite ready. He ate silently then retreated to his office. I visited after I finished asking if we could talk and he didn’t respond. Finally he said I knew he was dealing with things and I just need to leave him alone so he can work things out. I told him it was affecting me and that we can’t spend all of our time managing his emotions and that I have feeling and needs as well. To which he responded “don’t make this about you.“ After he left for work he sent this text: I’m sorry. But you can’t keep pushing me to talk. It has the opposite results. I’m heading to the shop. Have a good day. 😘
How would you respond? Am I being unreasonable in calling him out on it?
TLDR BF (55m) keeps me (50F) at arms length and makes it seem like I can’t have my own feelings bc his are the priority. Any advice to stop this in its tracks?
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>How would you respond?
I literally wouldn’t respond. He’s acting like a child. Does he bring anything good to this relationship or are you constantly walking on eggshells to ensure he doesn’t get upset (and therefore ruining the day for both of you)?
I’m confused. What were you trying to talk about with him between breakfast and heading to work?