I have a boyfriend of around 4 months, and the relationship is going good, I have a really strong connection with him. I am deciding whether I trust him since I just came out of a 7 year relationship where my guy cheated on me multiple times.
I was browsing thru his laptop and saw messages with a girl on discord in 2023 where they were planning to meet. I didn’t think anything of it because of course, we weren’t together then.
Then I realized he was with his then girlfriend at the time, so it immediately raised red flags because obviously he was cheating on her. I am so disappointed because he did say he has never cheated. I want to talk to him about it but I don’t know how to bring the convo up, or how to explain that I was snooping around his discord. What would you do?
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You’ve been with him for four months— dump him and move on to someone worth putting your trust in. I guarantee you will always wonder about him if you choose to stay… it’s not worth it. You should never have to question if your guy is/will ever cheat.
I would march my ass to therapy, break up and take a proper break from dating to fix my issues. You said you -just- ended a LTR and you are dating again, so I assume there was no time to heal. You have no business going through your partner’s messages, it shows that you have a problem regardless if you found something unsavory or not. And since you did find something suspicious, of course you should break up. And examine in therapy why you date the type of men that you do, sure you may be unlucky but 2 cheaters in a row may also be a pattern and worth examining.