Boys, How do i tell my parents i need to get circumcised (17)

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So im 17 and i have a condition called phimosis if you dont know what that is it pretty much just means i cant peel back my foreskin the most i can see when i peel it back is a little bit of the tip and its a big problem because this means i cannot clean underneath the foreskin either i havent always had this problem but i remember one day me going into the bathroom when i wws little because i was curious and peeling my foreskin back really far, so far that it hurt and from doing my research i think that paralised/tightened the skin so it wont peel back anymore so yeah i kind of need to get circumsised badly… because there would probably be 17 years of gunk under there its disgusting i know… but something even worse is that google says that if i dont fix it i could get utis and other diesases and infections and shit like that so yeah how do you think would be a not awkward way to tell my parents i need surgery on my penis 🙂

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  1. ReflectionNo736 Avatar

    Just tell them you wanna be circumcised because i m facing an issue.

  2. Dawgy66 Avatar

    First, never ever trust Google for medical info. That’s a search engine and not a qualified doctor, so you’ll get a lot of misinformation.
    Now, for your issue, talk to your dad and just tell him what you said here. He can schedule a doctor appointment and you can go from there. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about at all.

  3. _AmazingBae Avatar

    That takes a lot of courage to even talk about so first off, respect to you for being open about it. The best way is to keep it simple and focus on the medical side. You could say something like, “I’ve been dealing with something called phimosis, and after looking into it and maybe talking to a doctor, circumcision might be the best option.”

    Most parents just want to help—you don’t have to go into every detail, just let them know it’s affecting your health and comfort. It might feel awkward, but being clear and calm makes a big difference. You’re doing the right thing by taking care of yourself.

  4. Haunting_Bicycle_253 Avatar

    Just wait until your 18 and Just do it on your Own , you don’t have to tell them  if you are embarrassed ! Me personally have no embarrassment from my parents , I once traveled with a bus for 36 hours and I can’t handle this very well , so I don’t eat and I don’t sleep which makes me a little bit weird , so at some point of the ride during the end , we stopped for a bathroom brake  , so I had pulled my zipper and caught  my  Thing on  it , but I  haven’t noticed because I  woar long blouse and long jacket , so when I got home my thing got pressed like a rubber 😅 , I got so scared I showed it to my Dad , he told me not to worry it will get back again as it was . So yeah man ,  don’t be shy from your parents , but if you choose to be , do things on your own !

  5. PersonalitySmall593 Avatar

    So you haven’t been to a doctor yet?  That should be step one.  You may not need to be circumcision.  Schedule a appt asap.

  6. Winter_Jaguar5639 Avatar

    my ex had similiar problem, solved by slowly training skin to go deeper, nut not to the end,.just back and forward, everyday

  7. pookskii Avatar

    Oh darling 🙁

    My fiancé had the same thing when he was your age and was embarrassed he put it off for a few more years until he could barely urinate. Of course it is awkward but in the long run you will be fixed and you will no longer be in pain.

  8. FriendlyComment2353 Avatar

    if i were you id just wait till your 18 and go yourself. until then buy a steroid cream and try gradually stretch it back

  9. Warm_Objective4162 Avatar

    Just go to a doctor. There’s plenty of options before circumscision. Gently stretch it, use cortisone cream. As long as you can get water under it, you can clean it.

  10. Unlikely_Rest_3128 Avatar

    Do you bath or shower? I would take a bath and then moisturize afterwards. And see if it’s still an issue. And if it is, definately see your doctor before you get surgery

  11. karma4u88 Avatar

    This is exactly what is wrong with society, people trust more the internet than an actual specialist. Google is helpful but is not a doctor.

    Get a professional to look at this. Talk to your parents to take you to the doctor

  12. ilia_timmins Avatar

    Do it now while you’re on your parent’s insurance, however bring it up with your parents not as a surgery but to just go to the doctor to discuss the issue. I completely understand how there can be a bit of shame involved especially because it’s a private things to discuss with parents but aim it about health. Google while can be a wonderful asset to research conditions, the solution will be entirely personalized for you by a proper medical professional. you might even discover an alternative solution!

    I suggest talking to the parent you go to most often for advice between the two, and if you are not advocated for you only have a year until you’re 18. There is no shame in seeking medical advice.

  13. thedandygan Avatar

    Just tell your dad you have a problem you need to go to the doctor about. It seems like you haven’t gone yet? There may be another solution.

  14. InsideOutOcelot Avatar

    Why don’t you wait until you’re 18 then just sort it out yourself? No parents need to get involved

  15. sirtuinsenolytic Avatar

    As someone who lived with phimosis and got circumcised at 21. Just tell them.

    I didn’t because it was kind of an embarrassing conversation to have, so I didn’t by myself once I got insurance and all that. But, you should do it right now.

    It improved everything, from hygiene to sex life.

    I would just tell them that you would like to see a doctor because you are experiencing some pain or discomfort. They will understand and care about you. Then the urologist can actually diagnose you and recommend treatment.

  16. weasel_68 Avatar

    At 17, you should be able to go to the dr on your own. If you drive, make an appointment to have it checked. If the doc says it’s an issue, tell the parents

  17. NovaRvnBurst Avatar

    So, I’ve got a little situation down south that requires some parental guidance. You know how they say cleanliness is next to godliness? Well, let’s just say my foreskin has decided to become a hermit! Can we chat about a possible ‘extreme makeover: penis edition’?

  18. Baddog1965 Avatar

    You absolutely do not ‘need’ circumcision for Phimosis, there are many long term disadvantages. Stretching is the solution, and you can buy devices online that will help. Even for pinhole Phimosis and ‘difficult cases’, stretching had been used medically for 150 years at least. Check out myphimosisjourney.com. doctors who tell you you need circumcision for Phimosis are lying, and many will over sell it and not warn you remotely enough about the disadvantages because it’s a huge profit centre for them.

  19. multi-orgasmicman Avatar

    I thought I had this issue too, but it was just tight. Mine could never roll down, then one day I hustled pushed past the feeling of discomfort and it came down. Just try loosening it up

  20. RoundDefinition9416 Avatar

    You can buy a phimosis kit online. It has a variety of different size rubber rings to help stretch it bit by bit.

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  22. phillyphilly19 Avatar

    Go see a urologist, and then have the doctor tell them.

  23. DaBestDoctorOfLife Avatar

    Me and my little friend wear no capuchons from now on.

  24. LokiDokiPanda Avatar

    Just ask them to go to the doctor and discuss it with the doctor. Afterward you can have a more informed discussion with your parents.

  25. unbanable-individual Avatar

    You’re old enough to go doctors confidentially… I had a friend describe these exact symptoms and he had to get a procedure so I’d recommend that

  26. ScotInTheDotOfficial Avatar

    I saw my local GP about something very similar at a similar age.
    After a quick physical exam, it went something like this;

    Doc: so… are you sexually active?
    Me: no, not yet…
    Doc: then I think you should wait until you are. If it is still causing you an issue after that, then we can talk about circumcision…

    Funnily enough, it didn’t cause me an issue once I became sexually active… 🤔

  27. Odd-Reserve-3346 Avatar

    This can fix its self op. I had it— don’t pull it right back straight away, it can get stuck. But the more you do it will loosen up eventually. Mines fixed its self before my appointment for it to be snipped thankfully.

  28. crawfishinmydickhole Avatar

    I think it’d be best if you talked to a doctor about your potential problem and then maybe discuss circumcision w/ your parents and your doctor!

  29. IAmRules Avatar

    You tell them you are having pain and need to see a doctor and then take it from there

  30. Cherrypoppix Avatar

    just tell them you’ve got phimosis and it’s starting to cause issues, they’ll care more about your health than the awkwardness

  31. Automatic-Law-3612 Avatar

    Go to an doctor first and ask what they can do. Then you can always tell your parents.

    But an circumcision isn’t always needed. Sometimes they can do also make de skin wider. Then they make a cut horizontal, pul the cute vertical and stich it vertical. That’s less painfully then an circumcision, and heals faster.

  32. Amareldys Avatar

    Tell them you need a check-up.

    Talk to your doctor. Then have the doctor talk to whatever parent brought you there.

  33. Deep_Unit_7550 Avatar

    Google medical advice = cancer. Reddit advice = break up with your partner/spouse.

    You need actual medical advice. Go see a doctor and if you do need to be circumcised, you simply explain it to your parents. This doesn’t have to be a huge deal. Good luck with it.