Does it ever happen that you want to take a leak, you are at the urinal but no matter how much you wanna pee, you just can’t cuz someone is standing behind or is around you.
What goes in your mind at that time or what do you think might be the reason for it ?
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Yes I have the same problem. Idk what it could be honestly. It’s not like I’m afraid to pee or anything. Oh and another thing, I’ve never actually used a urinal, they make me feel weird
It’s so common it has a name: a shy bladder.
Maybe it is a “survival instinct”?
Having your noodle out to pee is a very vulnerable situation to be in.
Having someone behind you is very threatening.
Combining both might be enough for our brain to shut it all down and go into “survival mode” lol
It’s called “shy bladder” and it’s fairly common. I have a sort of self-hypnosis (really just a relaxing technique) I use if I’m having a problem. I look at the (usually) shiny flush valve. Concentrating on that gets my mind off the thoughts of pissing in public.
Never happened to me, but my buddy calls it performance issues
I know that as “shy bladder” and its a common thing. Its about relaxing some muscle that stops you from peeing your pants.
Happens quite every time to me when someone is peeing beside me.
But after a few beers, everything works fine. I think in my case it has something to do with low self confidence..
It’s called a “Bashful bladder” or “Shy bladder syndrome”, and it’s more common than you would think.
One trick I learned, is that during those instances I found myself “trying” too hard to urinate, which would actually make it harder. My technique is to just relax my body muscles completely and not “try” to urinate on command, but to let my body release on its own. Your body knows you are at the urinal, it will take care of itself.
EDIT: Another technique you could try, every time you would urinate at home, do something subtly, like pinch yourself somewhere, or tickle your glans a bit. If you continuously do this in private, you can train your body to urinate with this “command” in a public setting.
Women have the same kind of issues with public restrooms too.
stage fright. let out a nice grunt. you might try blowing on it.
When I wait for a stall at a party or concert people usually think I do drugs in there. Nope just shy lol
It usually happens to me only when someone I know is in the urinal next to me, which just adds to the humiliation 😂
I thought this was called PPS (Public Piss Syndrome).
Being pee shy is a thing, and it isn’t uncommon.
I used to be worse about it, but I’ve since relaxed enough that I don’t care much and can pee in front of whomever. My advice is to find something on the wall and focus on that while allowing your body to relax
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Not for me. I just assume the guy is just as interested in my pizzle as I am of his. Which is none. There is the lime 1% chance of a guy being gay though, but that’s so rare it doesn’t even come to mind when I’m pissing
‘Stage Fright’
Stage fright
I avoid urinals too. Who tf thought that men don’t need privacy?
Doing math in your head could help. Multiply a two digit number with a three digit number.
Yes. Then I try to look at the ceiling and relax.
Pro tip, don’t ask me how or why it works, or how I discovered it, but next time, try just blowing some air at the tip. You’ll instantly get chills and start peeing.
Need to occupy your mind and stop thinking about not being able to go. I count, whether it’s the spots on the tile or the tiles themselves or just counting in general – it works just like counting sheep does to fall asleep
Deep breaths and you’ll overcome it. Or just focus on your lil guy being cold to get things started
I’m almost 30… I cannot use a urinal unless the bathroom is completely empty and theres like very little chance of anyone coming into the bathroom. So quiet venue, empty bathroom. However I just tell people I’m pee shy and it seems to help me be less pee shy. Somehow it’s less embarrassing to tell someone that my body isn’t doing what it’s supposed to rather than stand with my dick in my hand for 15 minutes.
Nope. I just let it flow
Nope. I never have this issue. The only person I know to have this issue has some trauma from being bullied in school bathrooms when he was a child.
Hssshhhhhh
Only a minute population would get it😂
r/Nofap helps with this.
After boot camp I can pee anytime, anywhere
I could never pee with anyone watching. Its called anxious bladder syndrom
+1 💯
OMG yes. I thought I might be the only one but glad to hear it happens to others also.
There are 2 types of men that pee in stalls
There’s also a secret 3rd type, those with shy bladders, I always pee in a stall, I’ll let you figure out the reason
It’s a common thing but never really happens to me
Only time I cannot pee is in a body of water…other than that I’m good
I’ve had this problem for years and then heard someone say on a podcast start doing mental arithmetic when you’re trying to pee! Works a treat, takes your mind off the fact you can’t go and you know you can’t.
Give it a go.
Nah bruh, it’s called PPS. Public Piss Syndrome.
Before I joined the military, I had a shy bladder. Could hardly do my enlistment piss test that required an observer.
In boot camp, there is almost never a time where you aren’t pissing next to another dude. Or more often, six of you are all in the same stall pissing at the same time. I got over my shyness pretty quick as a necessity.
Then I got out and after a few years, I had a bit of an ego death, and my confidence plummeted. Again, I found myself unable to piss if someone was next to me at the urinals.
And THEN I got over that and can now piss freely again. Most of the time.
I don’t even pee at the urinal
“Piss shy” I hold my breathe for as long as I can.
Normally does the trick.
Nope, nowadays if I got to go then I got to go. No time to be shy.
Nope, nowadays if I got to go then I got to go. No time to be shy.
Stage fright, shy bladder. It’s common.
I just close my eyes for a few seconds pretend I’m somewhere else
You need to turn around with your dick out and tell “THATS MY PURSE!”
Yup.
Couldn’t pee outside in the wild either because of it until I had to work for Amazon.
Its called shy bladder and i have it big time. Like im in the plane right now holding my pee because i know if i go to the lavatory i wont be able to pee. One time i was drunk as shit with some friends in the woods and i asked to go for pee one of my friend said its too dark and you are too drunk i will come along. I stood for good 8 mins and couldn’t pee.
Do mental multiplication when this happens
Even smallest of numbers like 11x 12. You’ll be able to piss peacefully
Yes, I couldnt pee for the life of me at public restrooms until I turned 30. Its the mind that does it or those pesky penguins that finally got tariffed
Yep, sometimes it’s worse than others. Using a stall helps.
I usually just leave
I usually fake pee and pretend i was peeing, then fake wash hand. I wait for a min or 2 till it gets empty if it doesn’t then i just move on or go to the shitter
my P.O. conditioned me cus i had that problem he would literally sit down next to the toilet had a little desk in the bathroom mirrors catching every angle and he would be eye level and make direct eye contact with me one eyed snake 🐍….. he would turn the water faucets on full blast and be like just think about the running water hold your hands in the warm water 30 seconds now go to the cold water and in seconds the urge to pee hits….
every time until one day as soon as i heard running water i had to pee and even now 14 years later (I’ve been paper free and law abiding) washing dishes after 1-3 minutes I have to pee if its raining I have to pee sprinkler system starts going off near me you guessed it i need to PEE!!!
so remember kids stay out of prison conditioning lasts a lifetime
i know that MF laughs every day at how many men he conditioned like me he would always be laughing when he turned the water faucets on and he would never tell me the joke fuug TIL THE JOKE!!! 🤣 he’s evil Mr Martinez lets not meet agian 😂
My weird workaround is to picture myself walking around the Spencer mansion from the Resident Evil remake, complete with ambience and soundtrack. Idk why it works, it just does… some of the time.
Yes I have the same problem. A mental block of someone is near me. I wait or go to a cubicle
The medical term is paruresis. It’s a phobia. If it’s serious enough, the most effective treatment is graduated exposure therapy. It sucks (I know ) but it is treatable, and worth your time to overcome it:
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22208-shy-bladder-syndrome-paruresis
I’ve had a shy bladder for many years. It’s totally in my brain because as soon as that person leaves, I can feel the muscles relax and can pee just fine. Most of the time, no amount of standing there is going to allow me to go. I just have to give up and come back another time.
I get piss drunk and unlock the skill to pee anywhere in the peeing skill tree
I would have this happen at the club and it sucked. I needed to pee badly but couldn’t unless it was a stall
Yeah. It’s fucking annoying
Ya I found a fix for it for me atleast as well
I song the waterfalls song in my head
I’ve had this happen exactly one time. I remember it vividly. Don’t know why; I had to pee so bad but I was at a special event in a public restroom and it just wasn’t gonna happen. It’s generally called being pee-shy, some people experience it regularly, for me it was that one time and I have no idea why.
yep, it’s called paruresis or shy bladder syndrome, and i walk outta there whenever the stalls are occupied and at least one person is using the urinals. however, if my bladder is very full and i have no choice or i’m already peeing in a urinal and someone is using another, it just goes until i’m done.
it’s a symptom of social anxiety, but i don’t see it as a big problem. i make mental notes on which restrooms are least occupied and if I’m on campus, i time my restroom visits right. i guess i sometimes think some perv or bully will take a look and i have insecurities.
This has happened to me in the past. Especially when the urinals are super small. It’s a head game. I start naming the starting line up of a random nfl team. It helps to take my mind off not being able to pee. And eventually I pee. It gets easier each time too. But it’s totally normal.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ExtraFabulousComics/comments/jo4lgo/holding_it/#lightbox
This makes me laugh.
Everyone gets pee-shy. Reason I use stalls at sporting events.
I once had to pee in a cup last minute for work to take a drug test for a trip to a job site later that week. I got nervous and made the poor nurse have to stay 30 minutes late. I felt so bad, that I decided I was going to overcome this weakness.
What I ended up doing is that whenever someone else is in the bathroom I’m trying to pee in, I think “oh, it’s strange that they made humanoid robots designed to pee here.” It’s so silly, but for whatever the reason that got me past this issue. It might just be that I start thinking about how silly that is, and it distracts my mind enough to allow me to pee.
Go in a stall
This is funny timing. The other day I was at our local nudist camp ground. (Yea spring) I went to pee and experienced shy bladder because another guy was also in the bathroom. So yes, I can walk around naked and swim and sit in the hot tub with strangers, but cannot pee in the same bath room with someone around.
Why bladder. Yeah.
No it doesn’t bother me. Everyone in there has a penis and they’re all different. Had to shower and dress in front of other guys in school gym class. No big deal.
I have a pretty shy bladder. No matter how bad I have to go. If there is someone within 10 ft of me, it’s not going to happen.
Wow! I totally misread this post! 😂😂😂 I really thought the author was a woman and that she was trying to be a “pick me.” I was rolling my eyes so hard. 😂😂😂
Reading it as if it were written by a woman gives it a Korn vibe. 😂😂😂😂😂
You mean like this? https://redd.it/jo4lgo
I literally just don’t pee in urinals for this exact reason.
It’s a mental thing. In the 70’s & 80’s boys growing up will pee together in a group and as you get old it might be a mental block if someone’s nearby. But in today’s time if you’re in a public urinal it automatically happens because you’re raised in a certain way to be polite… and some aren’t. So yeah it depends on upbringing & it’s a mental thing.
I actually don’t have that problem since I just have to remember that I’m never gonna see that person in the stall next to me ever again
Never had this issue, but I grew up peeing outdoors a lot in farm country. It’s just a dick, it’s just pee.
I’ll pee right in front of you with ur eyes locked on idgaf
Yep, I can’t pee in public unless I’m in a stall. I can stand at a urinal or by a tree as long as I want and nothing will come out, or just tiny droplets. It’s weird cause this wasn’t an issue a few years ago, I’ve always had major social anxiety but for some reason it only started affecting my public urination in recent years
I also feel like urinals make it hard to hide yourself and as I grew taller I need to be in a more awkward position, maybe is a reason why I suddenly got a shy bladder
Find the trick to distract yourself from being in public. For me, if needed I’ll tap a finger on the inside of my thigh while standing at the urinal. Works most of the time, sometimes it just doesn’t. If someone walks up and starts talking then they’re just an ass
Ugh, yeah I get this. If I don’t think about it, I’m just fine, but once I get inside my head, I’m just standing there with my dick out awkwardly for a minute and I flush the urinal with a full bladder
Yep, I have a shy bladder. The only person that I have no issues peeing around is my wife.
I was blessed to be able to pee on demand. I didn’t know it was a skill until I joined the military. People with shy bladders need not apply.
If it’s a guy our age, we compare it then go full clash of clans with each other
If it’s a guy of old age, we brace for impact
If it’s a guy of young age, we abort.
Ya that’s a shy bladder I just think of a water fall and pray it releases
Happens quite a lot really. Best to time it so that people are not around.
One of my favourite memes: https://preview.redd.it/dneqbik5cax51.png?auto=webp&s=dbe61a945185a0b67c6c35d3ddb0c49ec04de2e0
yes bruh omfg sometimes i’ll go to piss in my own house and if my bf comes into the bathroom while i’m pissing the stream just stops. it’s insane. the only time i can comfortably piss when someone else is near is when i’m drunk out of my mind
You must learn to Erase all things around you. Focus on ur breathing for a few seconds then envision it comeimg out as you exhale. 2 years of weekly supervised piss tests taught me this. Never pissed dirty but I had to stay in the office a few times for many hours before I could go.
Yeah sometimes. It’s not what others say about having a shy bladder though. I’m a kind of paranoid person and don’t like to be in that sort of vulnerable position, so beery so often, I’ll rather wait for the other person/people to do something before I start.
I’ve always been a stall only guy, to the point of letting people go ahead of me in line at a game or concert until one opens. The momentary embarrassment is a fair price for the comfort of going as much and as long as I need to. I will say that as I get older (coming up on 51), the need to go is outweighing the shyness more often than not.
I feel so embarrassed in those moments 😔
I have this too, and I do think it has to do with survival because you are vulnerable with your dick out. What I think about at that moment which helps are “if someone dares touching me right now I’ll beat the shit out of him”. Not that I really would but it works and I can pee. I also sometimes start counting, like the tiles in front of me or the tiny rust specs on the urinal flush.
Never
The Military broke me of that but I used to be shy at the urinal yeah
Quick context: Healthy 47M, confident, married to a hottie, 3 kids, good life, retired in the tropics, no stress, no fear of masculinity issues.
This has always happened to me my whole life. Suuuuper annoying. It’s a strange psychological block many folks I know call “pee shy”. No idea of the “root of root” causes, but I cope by using a stall, or staring blankly at a feature on the wall while thinking of nature 😂 it only works half the time. It also helps to actually own it right at the urinal, “whell shit, looks like my dude is pee shy again.” Others might laugh, some will nod (it’s suuuuper common), and the relaxed atmosphere can then help the flow get going. The key is to stop hiding it. It’s common. Most dudes understand and commiserate.
It’s most frustrating when you do get a tiny bit of flow, but then it stops & your ureter/urethra are full but won’t empty. So you give up, and the moment you relax you have a brief moment of incontinence. Fuck me that sucks.
I count things, tiles, bends in the pipe, if I’m getting a shoulder massage. Whatever.
For me, it depends on who exactly is standing behind me, if it’s some kind of children or a person who won’t even talk to me is shy, then everything works out for me. But if there’s some company fresh in the back, or God forbid, older than me, or some bullies who are bullies, then I don’t go to the bathroom during this break.
This is why I’ve always pissed in stalls
Yeah, it does. One time, I tried to force myself to pee, and in the process, I farted. It was embarrassing as hell, bu at least some dudes at the urinals got a laugh.
Stage fright is perfectly normal, when it happens to me I try to relax and focus on releasing. Sometimes I will imagine water flowing from pipes, sinks, and rivers to get me back in the mood to pee.
This doesn’t happen to me cause I nope out if i see someone else in the bathroom. I think I have trauma from when some dude broke the urinal rule and was studying my steven as we pissed
Sometimes it happens but not often. However if I’m outdoors, I could piss in front of a stadium full of people no problem. I’m so comfortable pissing outdoors.
Why not just pee in the stalls then?
If I’m in the ocean or a lake, I won’t be able to pee. I’ll be in the water, people will tell me “just pee” can’t. Idk
Just go to the bathroom stall, simple.
Stage fright.
Ive memorized the number of steps from the door to the urinal at my work bathroom for this reason and just keep my eyes closed when I’m in there.
I can’t be too scared to pee by other people if I don’t know they’re there!
Ive only peed on the backs of three people so far.
Post made by a woman tho
lol, I was in a similar situation when I was in hospital and the nurse insisted that I pee in a pee jar in front of her, I said I’ll do it in the bathroom, but she was just too persistent. Idk what was the reason, but I just stood there for like a minute just unable to start peeing. So embarrassing 🙈
I just fully undo my pants, let them drop to the floor, then pull my boxers down to my ankles. No one wants to piss next to me when I’m doing the ‘Toddler wee™️’
Happens to me more and more these days, it’s terrible. Been a could of times where I’ve been there so long I just give up and go later.
I’m mostly fine as long as I’m not tense. Don’t take this the wrong way but it doesn’t affect me if someone is watching. Fuck that still sounds gay… I’m just tryna say the only reason I get tense and can’t piss is because my body was usually driving a car for the past three hours and my muscles are stopping me. My mind? “Why the hell isn’t it coming out? Oh! What if I push harder… Nope ..” not much going on up here
When I was young I would count the air dots in grout and tune out everything else around me.
Thank the school bully’s for that. Living with eyes in your back.
It’s more common than you think.
Yessss
It helps me to practice math equations in my head or to put my headphones in to distract myself