This Husband Wants to Go on a Month-long “Bro Trip” During His Wife’s Due Date and Honestly, We Are Throwing the Whole Man Away

We’ve seen some pretty questionable behavior on the internet, but this one might actually take the trophy for the most audacity ever packed into a single Reddit post. We all love a good vacation, and sure, four years is a long time to wait for a trip with the guys. But you know what else is a pretty big deal? The literal birth of your child. One pregnant woman is currently being called a “wet blanket” because she wants her husband to, you know, actually be present for the delivery of their daughter instead of hiking with his buddies.

The Original Poster (OP) is twenty-one years old and pregnant with her first child. Her twenty-seven-year-old husband has been trying to get this trip off the ground for four years, but life kept getting in the way. Now, the stars have finally aligned for him to leave in two months. The only tiny, microscopic problem? That is exactly when the OP is due to give birth. She is terrified of going through labor alone, especially since her father has passed away and her mother is mentally ill. She literally has no one else to lean on.

Instead of being a supportive partner, this man is out here gaslighting her into feeling like a villain. He told her that birth is “honestly not that big of a deal” because, when his son from a previous relationship was born, the labor only took an hour and the nurses were nice. Sir, unless you have a medical degree and a uterus, you do not get to decide how “big of a deal” squeezing a human out of your body is. Every birth is different, and assuming his wife will have an easy time just because his ex did is some Grade-A bullsh!t.

It gets so much worse, though. This isn’t just a weekend getaway; he plans on being gone for an entire month. He has sole custody of his son from that previous relationship, and his plan for the childcare is basically… nothing. He expects his freshly postpartum wife to come home from the hospital and immediately start solo-parenting his older child while recovering from major medical trauma. He hasn’t made a single arrangement for the boy after the OP leaves the hospital because he’s too busy packing his bags.

His sister agreed to help while the OP is actually in the hospital, but she has a full-time job and can’t stay forever. So, while this guy is out living his best life with his friends, his wife will be bleeding, sleep-deprived, and trying to care for a newborn and a stepson all by herself. His “solution” to this nightmare? He offered to pay her for the hardship. Because apparently, you can just Venmo your way out of being a father and a husband.

The OP is so isolated and beaten down by this man’s “logic” that she actually feels awful about the situation. She says she wants to “drop the issue” so she doesn’t spoil everyone’s fun. Her husband’s friends are even joining in, calling her a “wet blanket” for wanting her husband to be there for his own daughter’s birth. If your “friends” think a vacation is more important than a new baby, you need to find a new circle and a new spine.

Let’s be real: this isn’t just a trip; it’s a massive red flag. Telling a woman that “women take care of children alone all the time” is a disgusting way to justify abandonment. Yes, women do it because they have to, not because their husbands are off on a voluntary bro-trip. The level of entitlement it takes to beg your pregnant wife to let you leave her during her most vulnerable moment is truly staggering.

The OP is worried about being a “wet blanket,” but she needs to worry about being a doormat. A man who thinks his presence at a birth is optional is a man who thinks his participation in fatherhood is optional. If he leaves for this trip, he is telling her exactly who he is: a person who prioritizes his own fun over the safety and well-being of his family.

The internet is screaming at this girl to realize she is NTA. You aren’t spoiling the fun; he is ruining his marriage. There is no amount of money he can pay her that makes up for the trauma of being left alone with a newborn and his older child while he’s out in the woods. If he wants to be a “single guy” on a month-long trip, maybe he should just stay single.

So, to the OP: Stand your ground. If he leaves, he’s choosing his friends over his daughter and his wife. That’s not a “hardship” you can pay someone to handle; that’s a betrayal. You deserve a partner who can’t imagine being anywhere else but by your side. Don’t let him or his dusty friends convince you that you’re asking for too much. You’re asking for the bare minimum.