My brother (45M) showed up Christmas Eve with a 22 year old he introduced as his “girlfriend” Emma. She seemed uncomfortable when parents asked about her job, said she was “between opportunities.”
Her Instagram is full of designer stuff and Dubai trips. Way more than someone with no job should have. Next day my brother confirmed he “helps with her expenses” but got defensive about their “connection.”
Parents are asking when they’re getting married. Emma seems nice but she’s closer to my nephew’s age than my brother’s. The whole thing feels off.
Should I say something to my parents or stay out of it?
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My brother (45M) showed up Christmas Eve with a 22 year old he introduced as his “girlfriend” Emma. She seemed uncomfortable when parents asked about her job, said she was “between opportunities.”
Her Instagram is full of designer stuff and Dubai trips. Way more than someone with no job should have. Next day my brother confirmed he “helps with her expenses” but got defensive about their “connection.”
Parents are asking when they’re getting married. Emma seems nice but she’s closer to my nephew’s age than my brother’s. The whole thing feels off.
Should I say something to my parents or stay out of it?
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Escort.
Well considering it’s July…what happened?
Just stay out of it. It is either not real or a ticking time bomb all by itself, and it is your brother’s personal business either way.
It’s none of your business who another grown adult spends their time with as long as it’s another consenting adult.
Mind your business. Maybe she is a sugar baby. What do you expect your parents to do?
Why do you care? Stay out of it.
If your brother’s an adult and she’s consenting, there’s only so much you can do, but it’s fair to feel protective of your family vibe. Maybe don’t drop the sugar-baby bomb just yet, but gently flag to your parents that things might not be as picture-perfect as they seem. Sometimes planting the seed is enough without lighting the whole Christmas tree on fire.
Do you really think your parents are confused?
Please stay out of it.
Eeeeewww
If your parents are already asking marriage questions, it’s gonna get messier fast. I’d say something gently now before they get too invested in this awkward setup.