My bf loves playfighting, tickling me, and messing around like flipping me off as a joke. I’m a naturally sweet, quiet, pretty passive girl. I was in the kitchen doing dishes and he came inside with his hammer and held it up like a “I’m going to get you” look. I laughed “Whaaaat” to him and he repeated that back teasingly. He said he would never hurt me and he was across the room and wasn’t like he was over me. It still scared me. We’ve been together a couple years and lived together for 3 months. I’m autistic and grew up abused; I get overwhelmed and scared easily. I like a soft, peaceful, gentle life. I say he should be nicer but he finds it funny. How is that funny to pretend to hurt me or startle me… A funny startle is hiding under the blankets and yelling “boo” 😓 What is going on 😭
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Yo, I dont fuck around with pretend violence, all the more so with someone with a history of abuse. If he KNOWS that shit, it’d be game over instantly.
If youve never had “that” conversation and you feel like having a serious boundaries conversation. You do you As there ARE enough dudes who grew up in the last 4 decades, seeing a lot of this reflected in Hollywood movie relationships and think “oh that’s cute couple banter.”
But geebus. If he DOES know…..christ, what an asshole
That would be a, “into the volcano with him” situation for sure
I think you should leave him .IF he is a predator,he knows you are a naturally sweet,quiet , passive girl ,you are autistic too.You should leave him.
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You have expressed how it makes you feel when he does that and he laughs and keeps doing it. He doesn’t care about your feelings and honesty sounds like he’s unstable. Who tf does that especially when you’ve expressed how it makes you feel. What a POS.