I was celebrating my graduation with my extended family at a restaurant. My aunt (middle aged, has 2 kids of her own) loves to hold my 9 month old baby. I don’t mind.
She was holding the baby when I look over and see her feeding my baby droplets of water off her finger (letting the baby suck them from her finger). Just fyi- the water was actually from her MARGARITA glass that she’d later filled with water. Also keep in mind, my aunt had just eaten and hadn’t washed her hands since. I exclaimed “what are you doing?!”, proceeded to tell her not to do that, then asked if we could step away from the family to go speak privately she refused to speak privately, made a scene, and fled from the celebration.
Aitah?
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NTAH you tried to pull her to the side and resolve it privately. It’s your child. You have the overall say.
NTA at all, she is so ignorant, and careless. Most old moms think that they are so experienced that they can do anything at anytime without and precautions as they are “experienced” or “have done it tons of time before” Regardless, you have every right to call her out and protect your baby from her ignorance
NTA. Your aunt was completely out of line. Plus it’s your baby and your choice on what goes inside it.
If she refused to step away to discuss this privately, then she can wear the consequences
You’re the parent of this child and YOU alone get to make the rules regarding safe handling of your child.
NTA
NTA what a dumbass. The actual audacity.
Sounds like she was drunk.
It’s unlikely to harm your baby, so please don’t worry. Probably just ice water and even if there is any trace of the alcohol it would be very minimal. If her hand is dirty that could be more of a concern, but probably also still okay – unless your baby has any known allergies that she could have been exposing them to.
That said, feeding a baby without asking one of their parents or caregivers first is absolutely not okay.
NTA.
No. Your aunt needs her head examined
NTA
Who tries to let a baby suck water off a finger
That’s insane
I. Would. NEVER!!!
I wouldn’t let a baby suck on my fingers unless they were freshly washed, and I would never refuse to talk to another mom about something she saw me do with her child! I’m fuming for (with) you!!
Is she going to deal with the thrush she caused?
My mom did this with my first born and he was in pain for weeks on end. Guess who wasn’t there to soothe him day and night.. Guess who didn’t have to clean up after letting him free pee and poo without a diaper on to give his butt the chance to air dry and heal from the horrible thrush rash he had down there..
Even if it wasn’t a margarita glass that contained water afterwards or her hands being dirty from eating and what not.. She doesn’t need to share her fungi with your child.
You gave her a chance to deal with it privately, she caused the scene that you could have rightfully made but chose not to… NTA.