My partner of 13 years (M40) and I (F40) tells me he is only with me because we have a child (now a teenager). He is frustrated with me, moody and can react poorly to criticism. I agree that I don’t act very mature at times and don’t back up discipline of our child that well. I can see that there is a lot of self sabotage on my part (which I excuse due to being anxious about doing the wrong thing in our relationship). I love and admire my partner for his good traits and I can see lots positives.
I’d be interested in thoughts from people in a similar situation – do I accept this won’t work or be an advocate for creating something together more positive. I’d like a fresh start when I am not judged by my past actions.
TL:DR M40 is frustrated with F40 and wants to end the relationship. Is it delusional to think that a person can have a fresh start and not be judged by past actions and save a relationship?
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Don’t try to work on yourself in the hopes he will stay. Do the work because you want it for yourself.
Get yourself into therapy. Work on yourself.
Words are cheap, but actions can mean everything.