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hi all. i am 21f, my partner is 22m. we’ve been together 2.5 yrs.
today i found out about my partner’s porn addiction. i was in bed waking up while he was getting ready for work, and saw his phone open on reddit and what i saw was disturbing. i asked for him to send me screenshots of his undeleted history and visited communities. he deleted everything and then confessed he’s been trying to deal with a porn addiction.
he said it’s been been ongoing since high school and has been getting worse. he told me it consumes his brain day/night/at work and he can’t help but look for it. he even admitted to looking at it in bed with me, while we’re smoking together, and in any of his free time. even said he’s ‘rain checked’ me for sex for it.
my question is: can our relationship work after this? he’s willing to make a change as it obviously now affects our relationship. how can i be a better partner to him?
i’m genuinely at a loss. i thought we were solid. our sex life is very active and now, i find myself looking inwards trying to find what i could change. any help would be appreciated.
TLDR; my partner has hidden a porn addiction for 2.5 years from me. i found out this morning by accident and he confessed. can our relationship survive?
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No. Leave Now. This problem will show up in other areas of your relationship. You’ll start to feel not good enough. Insecure. He’s already “rain checked” sex with you for pixels on a screen. Speaking from experience, leave. He will always have a wondering eye
I mean, can it? Sure. A relationship can survive an opiate addiction, so I’m sure it can survive this.
Do you want to sign up for that? Different question. No wrong answers.