The other day my now (ex) girlfriend and I were making out. I was kissing her and slid my hand down the back of her pants but she said she didnt want to so i stopped. Later we kissed again and i did it once more. (I feel so horrible about this). Once she said stop again I did immediately and apologized. She said it was because my parents were upstairs and we broke up a day after due to not having much in common and she said i was a really sweet and kind person. She hasn’t talked to me since then, am i overthinking it or is she upset with me? Does this make me a sexual assaulter? I asked her if I made her uncomfortable at all and she said no, but i’m stressing because she hasn’t snapped me since our breakup except once. She had liked my instagram story. Please help this is eating me alive. The week before that she almost let me finger her but said she was on her period so we couldn’t.
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She probably broke up with you over this, not uncommon interests. She told you to stop, you should’ve stopped. I don’t think this makes you evil, or a sexual predator. Just don’t go overboard.
Odds are she broke up with you because of something related to or directly because of this. I’m assuming you’re still a teen, and I’m sure your hormones are pretty high.
You made a mistake, so learn from it. You’re not a predator. Still, puberty/high sex drive isn’t an excuse to keep trying to do something your partner doesn’t want to do, especially if she already turned you down prior.
“not snapping but liking my stories”…. You guys broke up. Especially if she “broke up because of uncommon interests”, she has no reason to snap or interact with you in the first place. Move on if you can move on, learn if you can learn.
I mean she did say no the first time, right. You violated boundries🤷🏻♂️
it sounds like you disrespected her boundaries and made her feel unsafe. it’s not uncommon for a girl to say things to placate you as a protective response. it’s a good sign that you know you did something wrong. now you need to learn and apply the lesson. you might offer a simple apology with no expectation of further engagement, but really i’d suggest that you leave her alone.
You’re not a rapist. At the least though, she likely felt uncomfortable with the fact that you did the exact same thing she had just asked you not to do. It feels pretty disrespectful to have blatant boundaries crossed.
It sounds like you’re both pretty young, and this is definitely a mistake to learn from. No matter who your partner is at any age, girlfriend or not, always listen and make sure you’re on the same page with each other’s desires, boundaries and limits. Before, during, after. Especially in newer relationships. Don’t assume consent, or you can unintentionally fester pressure.