I, (FtM13) was dating a (FtM15) person for 5-6 months (my first relationship, and he is experienced). One day my boyfriend asked me to do a poly relationship with someone he’d known fora long time, claiming he had feeling for them for a while. The guy was (M18) and I said no due to my age gap, so my boyfriend kept asking saying: You don’t have to love him it can just be me and you and him loving me. After I asked why he’d date me if he loves someone else (before me) he said he loves us both equally.
He then asked if I loved him and I said automatically, Yes I do.
He then ghosted me for a day, and I offered him to either break up with me and we would be friends, or he says no to the other person and they be friends while I stay dating him.
I asked him to pick one since he offered the idea then he said “Idk I’m not choosing.” I offered more time to him then he said im not gonna pick. The next day he said he was breaking up with me because I was unreadable and I was emotionless when I talked to him. I talked to him and offered to fix my behavior since this was only the second fight and he mentioned having too many fights. He said as well that I scare him for some reason which was when I opened up more so we can have a mature conversation. He blocked me and left me on read.
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Get away from this asshole and you are 13 and his fuckbuddy is 18 THATS RAPE
He played you like a safety net while chasing someone else and that is not love. Walk away with pride because anyone who cannot choose you never deserved you.
You deserve better than him because I was once in a Poly relationship before and it led to the girl mainly focusing on the other guy and basically forgetting all about me (But this isn’t about me)
If he wanted to do a Poly relationship it’d likely lead to a whole bunch of complications from the get-go and he’d likely be more attracted to the other person.
You deserve someone who will treat you better and I’m sorry you went though that. I’m sure you’ll find a guy who will treat you better than he ever has and ever will and until then I hope the best of luck to you
He really doesn’t care for you. He’s selfish and manipulative. Good riddance, tbh.
You’re just 13 💔
Open relationships are more common in the queer community and it is something for you (and you alone) to consider. Most people who are drawn to ENM do so to acknowledge that they have always had multiple crushes and don’t feel conflicted about it.
This is something different. You were absolutely right to insist that you not be roped in to a triad with an 18 yo. And you were absolutely right to state your boundary that you would not be OK with your bf seeing others.
You can’t control other people, just set boundaries. You did well to determine what you can accept and then not accept the rest.
You don’t have to perform or earn love and acceptance. This sounds like a simple incompatibility. You’re 13. Bless and release. And keep your chin up 🩵
13? What is this world coming to… what are you in 7th grade? You don’t need a boyfriend right now, especially one who is fooling around with 18 year old boys. Please stay far away and tell your dad
> The next day he said he was breaking up with me because I was unreadable and I was emotionless when I talked to him.
Creates a scenario, doesn’t get the response he wanted, blames you. This is manipulation. OP, walk away from this person because if it’s not this then down the line there will be something else that causes a worse reaction.
Also, I don’t want to pin it on age here, but you’re still growing and are going to have a lot of where your morals will come into question. Always trust your gut.
The 18-year-old is clearly a sex offender and your boyfriend is trying to get the sex offender a 13-year-old
You deserve someone who respects your boundaries and communicates openly. This is a chance to grow and find what truly makes you happy. Be proud for standing your ground.