Location: Hawaii, United States
Hi, and thank you for taking the time to read this. I’m writing because I’ve been carrying the emotional weight of something that happened at my last job, and I finally feel ready to ask for guidance on whether I have any legal options.
In early 2023, I was working at a small business in Hawaii. I had been there for three years and had been promoted to manager. I genuinely cared about the people I worked with, and I put everything I had into leading with compassion, structure, and care. But what most people didn’t know is that I was also managing PTSD, anxiety, depression, and a history of suicidal ideation — all while trying to keep my team strong and supported.
I was receiving therapy through Kaiser, which I had access to through my employer’s insurance. I also had Medicaid. I was actively doing the work — showing up for my mental health and for my job. But the pressure of carrying all of that quietly while trying to lead eventually broke me.
One day, during a work moment, a high-level leader at the company publicly yelled at me in front of others. It was loud, harsh, and personal. I froze and just cried. I couldn’t speak — I felt paralyzed. Even though I received a written apology later, the damage was already done. I no longer felt emotionally safe.
The workplace grew more toxic after that. Despite loving my team, I ended up resigning because I couldn’t keep functioning in that environment. I now understand that may be considered constructive discharge.
Since then:
- I experienced a mental health crisis, including a psychotic episode
- I was hospitalized and diagnosed with bipolar disorder in addition to my existing conditions
- I lost income, had to use all of my savings, and relied on unemployment
- I’ve stayed in therapy (through Kaiser and Medicaid) and have been working hard to recover
I also have witnesses who saw what happened and may be willing to speak on my behalf if I decide to pursue legal action.
Comments
No, you don’t appear to have any cause for legal action. It’s not illegal for people to be assholes to you, and there’s no legal duty for the workplace to be an “emotional safe space” for you.
You should continue your treatment for your issues, and you can possibly request accommodations from future employers.