I, 17M and really want to be in a relationship. The thing is, I have more female friends than male friends, and I genuinely enjoy hanging out with them one-on-one. Sometimes we’ll go downtown together, grab lunch or dinner, or just hang out , but it’s always strictly platonic.
If I were to get a girlfriend, I wouldn’t want to give up these friendships or those hangouts. My friend keeps telling me that with this mindset, I’ll never get a girlfriend.
I just want someone I can come home to (figuratively speaking) who really loves me, while still having the freedom to hang out with whoever I want when we’re not together. I’d give them the same freedom too.
Is it still possible to find someone who’d be okay with this?
TL;DR: I really want a gf but I dont want to lose any of my female friendships
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It’s possible. Just be open and upfront with the people you meet and go on dates with. Give them the option to leave if it makes them uncomfortable or upset.
You may meet people thinking they can change your mind, be firm. Don’t make false promises to just to keep someone around that is truly messed up.
I’ve been married 22 years.
I have many platonic female friends.
It’s possible. You just make it a point upfront.
As a woman I wouldn’t mind if you went with your female friends however it could not be one on one. It would have to be a group. Almost all woman, would not like one on one. A few I suppose would be fine – however you would have to then allow them if they had male friends to be with them one on one to be fair. I honestly think some woman would be strict on even seeing a group of women but for me I wouldn’t care. Honestly I don’t think even think that’s controlling. But perhaps I’m antiquated. I find it to make perfect sense although I wouldn’t enforce that (I would allow them to see a group of women). Group of woman many women would be fine with. One on one? Ehhh. You’d have to change how you meet up with your female friends.
Yes just find someone that’s not jealous and insecure. You’ll have to put in effort into your relationship so they kno they’re number one. I’m a girl, most of my friends are guys, only been a problem to people that weren’t worth dating
It’s a tightrope. I have many female friends being presently married and did back when I was dating. I had promising relationships go totally sideways because my girlfriend couldn’t handle it, and truthfully I ended good relationships because I thought I had a something great with a friend that was turning into something more. I don’t subscribe to the idea that men and women can’t be friends, but it does usually make stuff more complicated.
If it’s definitely platonic you have to have clear boundaries and you shouldn’t have too mean trouble, but if that line gets blurred at all, you’ve got a real problem.