I genuinely don’t get it. I don’t understand why this type ever was or is still a thing. How can they get away with it and still have a social life. Even worse, how they can get a romantic life at all.
Is there something that men find attractive in this type of personality? Does it come with perks I just can’t see?
“Oh? You are/were a fucking monster to anyone that has ever been in your life? That’s so hot! I’m not worried at all about you doing it to me or my loved ones!”
I get it was everywhere in TV shows and movies for a while and may have marked a generation but… Hasn’t anyone just though “ok, that’s entertaining on TV, but I wouldn’t want this drama in real life. I wouldn’t want my hypothetical mean partner to bully my sister or vice versa”
It just doesn’t compute for me
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They are usually not that mean to their partner and those partners than get to feel special. And those partners are just as shallow and assholish as they are and just think, that the victims of their partner deserved it.
I’m oversimplifying, but probably for the same reason women go for bad boys: mistaking arrogance for confidence.
If a hot girl is mean to everyone but likes you:
It could be a huge ego boost for you.
She could be likely to be faithful.
Or you could just be wrong about these things.
More than one of the above can be true.
Meanness shows they’re thinking about you
Tits mostly
Someone else mentioned it but they “likely” aren’t mean to their partners and hopefully not their family. I don’t find it attractive as much as their “aggression” and anger doesn’t bother or scare me. I’ve been yelled at by people by entire life that doesn’t scare me. And once a mean woman realizes that you aren’t intimidated then they relax a little bit.
A lot of folks in unstable relationships think they can “save” their partner and the stress they experience in these relationships is often misinterpreted as romantic excitement
People can be pretty selfish and sadistic underneath it all. Why do bullies have friends and support in general? Because people are neutral or positively inclined to seeing someone dish out cruelty. Lots if people nowadays make a living harassing people with the financial backing of internet strangers who like to see it.
It’s just not even close to a universal turnoff.
You can blame Helga from the hey Arnold show.
There’s at least two aspects that some might find attractive about it.
For one, the mean outer shell is a strong barrier that some might find appealing to break down. There’s a tough shell for a reason. It can be incredibly rewarding to finally get access to a softer side. Typically once a romantic connection or even casual one has been established. She might be a total diva everywhere but the bedroom or in private.
The other reason is dwindled down to insecurities. There’s plenty of guys who just aren’t the type to take charge or be the dominant person. They are introverted and shy. They are the ones who would benefit from a dominant woman who is absolutely going to mention that the order is wrong or shout down your mother when she’s out of line. She’s also going to be a total demon in the bedroom and might aggressively take you towards pleasurable heights undreamt of. These are the types of dudes who are anxiously apologizing in the background as their wife/gf crashes out in public at some poor minimum wage employee or man other waiting in line.
I have encountered plenty of mean girl types. They are incredibly attractive and somewhat enticing, but their constant disrespect is ultimately unattractive/annoying.
Mean girls usually only get away with that type of behavior if they are hot and popular.
And hot girls get away with a lot because…well, they are hot.
When we see a hot chick, we don’t always see everything else going on with the whole package.
The story of dudes falling for a “hot girl” without realizing said girl is a horrible person is as old as time. Same story applies to girls falling for wrong dude.
Most men don’t have a lot of options for sex, so expecting them to give up the chance of sec because a woman is mean is peak delusion.