I’m in my mid-30s and dating is feeling exhausting and sometimes hopeless. Can y’all share some stories of how you met your person? Thanks!
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I’m in my mid-30s and dating is feeling exhausting and sometimes hopeless. Can y’all share some stories of how you met your person? Thanks!
ETA: I am living for these stories, thanks, ladies! I’ll respond to as many as I can tonight š©·
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Bumble. It took many dates and blunders before I met him. I hustled lol.
Swiped right on Bumble in 2018 and told him he had great taste in music (3/5 of our top 5 were the same).
It took 3 weeks to meet in person and our first date was 5 hours long sitting at a bar of a local Mexican restaurant. It was great.
Wacken festival.
Tinder. I was not looking for an exclusive relationship. We started out as FWBs at a time I was busy with life and grad school. He told me he knew I was it but I wasnāt ready for a commitment and was having fun dating around. He was patient and understanding and waited. Eventually I fell for him after a few months and weāve been together for 10 years, married for 7.
lol good old tinder
POF way back in the day š¤£
I wasn’t looking for a relationship, but my husband noticed me at the local Games Workshop store and thought I was really cute and obviously into the same hobbies as him.Ā
He didn’t approach me, but when he saw my profile picture on a local social network for young people, he sent me a message.Ā
That was nearly 16 years ago. And we’re together ever since!Ā
Meetup.com, joined a group I was interested in and he messaged me before a Meetup to chat so he would know someone there. Been together nine years now! I’m very lucky.
Tinder 7 years ago. I was emotionally unavailable after a breakup and so was he so we fwb for the better part of a year and then fell in love. Moved in together after I tore my achillies tendon so he could take care of me while I healed.Ā
My neighbor hehe
Just be yourself, do what you like to do and you’ll eventually you’ll meet someone, if you’re exhausted that’s not going to attract the right person imo.
Dating apps have become cesspools. The dating apps and sites used to be good. I met my ex spouse on one very quickly over 10 years ago. We were together for decades until they came out as trans. My good friend met her now spouse on one quickly as well over 10 years ago, and my ex’s good friend met his now spouse quickly in a dating site as well over a decade ago. I tried dating apps briefly after my divorce and being single for a bit. I was appalled at how they changed and how bad they were.Ā
And it makes sense, those companies don’t want you to find a lasting relationship, and match group has a monopoly. Over a decade ago, they weren’t monotizing the apps to the level they are now either.Ā
At a local Christmas Market. It was totally magical and corny af š I will never forget it. We go back every year, just for one GlĆ¼hwein (mulled wine) together. We talked for hours and had our first kiss that evening. He was totally polite and nervous, despite being a bit older and having his s*** together unlike me at the time š¤£ was just totally lovely and makes Christmas that much more special now
OkCupid
OKCupid back in 2019. It was my last attempt before giving up on the apps for a bit and his profile popped up with a dorky DnD reference.
Chats were great and I knew that worst case scenario, I had made a new friend. First date ended up lasting almost 10 hours and I knew from there that dude was gonna be stuck with me for life.
Discord.
The best relationships Iāve had have usually come from friend groups…just hanging out and letting things happen.
The not-so-great ones were with people I met on Facebook (Iāve never tried dating apps).
The guy Iām with now, I actually met through his sister (sheās a friend of mine). She brought him to a spin class once, and we all had a good time joking around. We were into each other, but both had other things going on. Funny enough, we added each other on Facebook but never really talked/interacted over there.
Fast forward about five years…my friend (his sister) moved away, but when she came back to visit, she set up a dinner with a group of us. He was there, and we ended up talking the entire time. It felt like weād known each other forever.
A few months later, I reached out just to chat…I had just gotten out of a rough relationship, and so had he. At first, it was just us talking and helping each other work through things, and over time, it naturally grew into something solid and wholesome. Weāve been dating for about a year now!
Dating apps, specifically on Hinge. I was on the apps from around early October to early April, with a break in November and December as I was seeing someone for two months.
It was exhausting, but I knew what I wanted and hustled. I think I went on a total of like…10-15 first dates? I had a very specific guy I was looking for so I knew it would take a bit to find him lol I think I did!
Tinder
On a dating site, Okcupid.
22 and drunk on 4th of July. Got dropped off at home and walked in to my younger brother’s older friend (my age) sitting on the couch in my house coming down from taking E earlier that night. My brother and his girlfriend were doing their thing so I hung out with him. That turned into taking a walk to smoke a blunt, staying up all night, going the the beach the next day together, screwing when we got back and now it’s 16 years later and we have three kids (one almost out of high school which makes me want to throw up). Been married 11 years now. I literally left my friend’s house that night proclaiming in my drunkenness that I was done with random hookups and just wanted to have a real relationship again. The ho phase was about to end and then I walked into a hookup that never stopped.
We met at a BBQ hosted by mutual friends. A couple of days later he asked the friend for my number, which I was happy for her to share. We moved in together two months after that – that was 19 years ago and we have 2 children.
I nearly didn’t go to the BBQ because I was hungover….
I already knew him from college over decade ago but when I came back to the country for work we reconnected. No intentions just catching up, getting food, hanging out.
I wasn’t looking for anyone and had no idea he was feeling that way at all. He was just so kind, listened and had such an interest in everything I was doing. But at the same time he gave me time and space to come around to it and I never once felt any pressure. Now If I had it my way I would be stuck to him 24/7. Never get tired of him.
Hinge, we both were about to delete the apps and accept being single, both early 30s
tinder. heās the only person I ever swiped on. I never wanted to online date but my friends made me join after a really bad breakup. he had the same taste in music and I thought he was really cute so I swiped, sent him a message with my number saying ātext me if you wanna chat, Iām never on hereā and he did!
we hung out and casually dated before going for it a few months after meeting. we both got so lucky and knew pretty quickly we had something special and different than everything weād experienced before. heās my other half
During an ultra marathon in the dry California desert.
High School, 17 years ago. Been together 16!
Work! Iāve worked in restaurants my whole life and dating people with normie schedules was so hard. I met my husband and work (both managers of different sides, heās a chef and Iām a GM). We were buddies at first, we would hang out and have a beer after work and commiserate about the shift. Then one night I said to him āI feel like thereās something between us, maybe we should make out to confirmā. Weāve been together almost 17 years married for almost 11.
She was a fan of my writing/podcast, and slid into my Twitter DMs to say sheād love to take me for coffee if I ever found myself in her city. As it happened, I had a trip booked to that very city for the following month to visit someone else, so we indeed went for coffee and hit it off. Now weāve been together for almost 8 years, married for almost 5!
tinder lol i wasnāt looking for anything serious but was totally open to it if i met the right person, he was looking for something serious after using tinder for casual meet and hookups and 10 years later here we are
So many online meetup stories in here… And I’m one of them haha.
Matched on Tinder in 2015 and married in 2019. I asked if I could plan our first date and chose all my favorite things: ayce sushi, movies, and after we spent a few hours chatting at a new boba tea place I had been wanting to try. We celebrate our anniversary every year by doing the same things, just different restaurants and film.
2019 Bumble. I was 35, and he was 37. Legitimately, it was both of our last attempts at trying to find someone. The first topic we connected over was a creepy adventure in Arkansas where we thought we might disappear. We’re in Memphis; he’s a born and bred Memphian, I’m a struggling Boston transplant who remembers what the cost of living in MA is.
We texted for a few weeks because we both worked crazy hours: 10-8 for me 9-7 for him. I canceled our first date (Sat night) with a migraine, but we went and got brunch the next morning. We stayed at brunch from about 11-3, just talking.
April 2019, he asked me to be his girlfriend.
November 2022, he asked me to be his wife.
September 2023, we got married (in Arkansas).
The first time, we met in undergrad at a university party and I thought he was cute but I didn’t think too much of it. The second time, we went out via a mutual friend and reconnected at a bar. We talked and danced and got to know each other better. We’ve been together ever since and just got married this month! We were never in a rush to get to the altar, clearly. š
Tinder! I was looking for hookups only, but turns out my man is not wired for flings, he roped me in despite my resistingā¦when he finally moved on I realized what Iād lost and we found our way back to each other. Heās absolutely amazing. Most supportive, loving, committed, dedicated partner Iāve ever had (Iām 41F, once divorced)
We first met because he was my sister’s neighbour, and we lived in the same neighbourhood so I would just “see him around”, but later we met-met at a rock climbing gym and started spending time together.
I met mine in gym class, it was volleyball, I was 17 and he was 16 with a license. I told him he looked like David Koresh who was this crazy cult leader. He said thanks. Oct 1st we will celebrate 25 years of marriage. Life has flown by, he makes me laugh everyday. He is truly my best friend.
I (35F) was visiting a dispensary after work to get carts for the penjamin. It was after the holiday party so I was wearing a Santa hat when I was walking in. A couple of guys pulled into the parking lot and got out of the car, and one of them spoke up behind me and asked, “Do you know if they sell weed here?” I got the joke and said, “I sure hope so!”
We ended up chatting while walking side by side about the location, somehow ended up on the topic of music, and realized we had common interests. I got a look at his face, saw that he was exactly my type, and he walked away. I was like, “What the hell? I thought we were vibing…” He came up to me 30 seconds later to ask me for my number.
We’ve been together for about eight months now.
Met him through a friend during an outdoor art festival at a docent talk regarding a large orb. We walked around and had a great time talking about art history. We ate dinner as a large group and the next morning he asked if I wanted to go for coffee. Honestly, he beat me to it. I was definitely going to ask him out that day, but I was going to wait for evening. Lol We’ve been inseparable since and are getting married next autumn.
One of those group trips that everyone on this sub hates, haha. Shared rooms, mostly strangers, 20+ people. We connected pretty much instantly. I wasnāt interested in dating though and said as much, so he moved on, then two years later I was and he happened to be single.
Dating app
32F I was done with dating for 3 years. My mom has been trying to play match maker for a while but was seriously trying to push this one guy on me. He wasnāt great. All my gaming friends were using said app and decided to give it another shot (even though Iāve had creepy experiences before). I went on a solid date until I discovered he lied about being 7 years young and gets off on degrading women. Being jaded I was like āok, Iāll give it another 24 hours.ā 24 hours passed, I actually matched with a guy, had a decent conversation, which ultimately led to my first relationship.
For the record, I donāt really encourage the use of dating apps (especially the one I met my person on). Itās just a tool at the end of the day. As a person whoās always dated intentionally using the apps, it took over 10 years, 2 major cities, thousands of matches, thousands of conversation, 70ish actual dates. Interested to see how things play out but nothing is promised.
My younger brother introduced us to each other
Okcupid in 2021. His profile pic was with a massive python (from an Everglades educational event) and I sent him a flirty message about snakes. He’s into environmental stuff and wanted to only attract women who also enjoy nature and wildlife.
IIRC, I found his profile by searching for positive answers to questions about voting by using the advanced features on the desktop site. It was tricky to find, and I hope it’s still there because it was an amazing filter!
I was looking for a casual relationship when we matched. I was recently widowed, and wasn’t in a place to plan long term or commit. Long story short, apparently I’m bad at playing the field. We’re getting married next year.
Not high school sweethearts, but high school!
On accident lol. I was married to not him. I was invited from someone on Reddit to a discord server related to my job. I apparently gave great advice and got invited by the discord owner to a secret channel which was like 7 other people or something and myself.
I just bullshit with everyone in there all the time but there were two guys the same age as me with a similar sense of humor so we ended up in a group chat because we were being too wild in the secret channel lol. We would just talk over everyone.
Well the one dude was going through some shit in the and started randomly disappearing and coming back so me and the other guy started just DMing. We became best friends. There was never and I mean never any flirting. I was happily (I thought) married and he didn’t even entertain the idea of being into me because he’s not a dick.
My marriage wasn’t bad by any means but it was lacking in a lot of ways. About every 6 months to a year we would have the same conversation over and over about how I’m not really all that happy and things would change and it would be good then it was just blah again. Well my ex and I had some life changes going on and our already shit communication became non existent.
I finally opened up to my friend about how I’m struggling and I’m not really having a good time anymore. I also talked to my 2 in person best friend’s as well. All 3 of them told me “you haven’t seemed happy for a long time, maybe you need to figure out if you want to stay.” I literally got a different version of the same talk from all 3, and the one lived with my ex and I for a long time so there was a lot of inside knowledge there.
I sat on it for a bit, unsure what I wanted. One day we were talking on the phone and he was describing his ideal life and where he wanted to be in 10 years and it hit me like a ton of bricks. My thought was “that would be nice but my husband doesn’t want that so it will never happen.” Then I was like “man if I was single I’d date this guy we have so much in common.” That one didn’t really stick in my head but the next thought did. “Wait, if he doesn’t want any of the same things I do and I’ve been compromising for him our entire relationship, why the fuck am I still here?”
The next day I lost it to this guy I’m like dude… I think I want a divorce I can’t do this anymore. Then we had a conversation about how him and his ex went through similar shit and he pointed out all the reasons he stayed far too long and wow they were the same reasons I was staying!
The next day i talked to my now ex. It didn’t go bad but it didn’t go well. He stormed out of the house and was pretty mad and I thought it was over and I was… Relieved. But he came back and said he wanted to try again and I hated that. We agreed to take a week and see how we felt.
A few days later I was talking to my bestie I don’t remember the conversation exactly but I asked him to clarify something and he was like “ugh well I don’t feel like it’s a good time to say it but if you’re asking then yeah I guess I do have some feelings.” And I’m like “you what now? Wtf? That’s not what I asked!” It was a misunderstanding. Reading back on that I can 100% see exactly why he thought that’s what I was asking so no, he wasn’t taking advantage of the situation.
He offered to give me space and we agreed to still talk but a little less for a few days. I mean that worked for like 12 hours lol. We kept talking cause talking to him was just easy. After our week was up my ex and I sat down, had a good heart to heart and probably the most open conversation we’ve ever had and agreed we couldn’t meet each other’s needs. This was a year ago, we still live together but only for a few more months the paperwork is all being worked on for the house.
After that conversation was over I called my bestie and we talked a lot. Later that day I admitted I might have feelings too but I wasn’t ready, I needed to grieve everything. He was absolutely cool with that but in the meantime we’re like well, maybe we would actually officially meet cause like if we don’t vibe in person there’s no point in worrying about a relationship. Yeah he’s exactly, exactly in person the way he is on the phone. I felt like I was meeting someone I’d known my whole life and just hadn’t seen in forever.
We took our time becoming official, I went back to therapy, I did my grieving and all that. (I mean I still am a bit, it’s not linear). In 6 months I’m moving in with him and I can’t wait. We see each other every 3-5 weeks as our work schedules allow, we have e-dates and talk all the time. The distance has really forced us to communicate and figure each other out in a time where sex is usually the focus in a relationship. I can literally talk to him about anything and it’s amazing.
tinder ĀÆ_(ć)_/ĀÆ going on 5 years.
My local city’s subreddit has a discord server. I joined just wanting to meet new people in the city, not looking for a romantic pairing. A guy joined around the same time as me, I saw his intro post, saw we were into the same things, same career field, thought he sounded cool to know.Ā
We chatted on discord for a bit then exchanged numbers. Then met for coffee. Then went on a proper date. About 2 months after meeting, we started an official relationship.Ā
Been together a bit over 18 months now and live together.Ā
Both of us are mid-late 30s.
Junior high. It was love at first sight for both of us, but we didn’t know it until I cold called him to let him know I thought he was cute. Life stuff kept us from going out for two years, which gave us time to date other people and discover we couldn’t stop thinking about each other. We hit 21 years together and 18 years married this past year, so we like to joke our relationship is a proper adult now.
met my boyfriend… on reddit š
I made a post on my cityās subreddit about how I couldnāt find any millennial men to date and invited everyone to a āmillennials karaokeā night. He was the very first to reply, so I DMed him. After that, a bunch of other guys DMed me too, but I decided to stick with the one I had messaged first š and honestly, Iām so glad I did.
Group camping trip. We were both friends with the organizer, but had never met each other before.
Mines not some sweet romantic story most people will say.
I was three months out of a terrible eight year LTR. He was barely out of a bad two year that butted up to a worse relationship. Neither of us ready for commitment. I thought he was the most handsome man Iād ever seen and I was incapacitated in his presence which never happens. I was tipsy after a girls lunch and feeling myself with some liquid courage while at our local pub. I brazenly hit on him and went home with him on his birthday. We had bad ONS sex which turned in to casual sex (it got better!) which turned in to drinks then dinner then I was just staying at his every night. He took me on vacation where we played house and that was nearly four years ago. Weāve lost both of his parents to cancer, navigated some other difficult life challenges and I love him more every day.
We met in college hanging out in the same friend group.
Online gaming :3 I had to move countries to be with him though
Bumble 2 years ago when I was 35, we got married last year and having our child next week.
OKCupid. I was 31 and he was 36. We chatted for a few days, had a phone conversation, and went on a date a week after first connecting. The matching feature of OKCupid was helpful in that it ruled out people who really weren’t great. The rest is history. We’ll be married 14 years in January.
On Hinge. He wasn’t the type I would’ve considered dating but at that time I was looking for something casual so I just went with it. We have been living together for the last 2 years but still can’t say if this will be a forever thing.
Tinder on a Friday he asked me to meet in a Sunday we walked around the city and talked until 3 am, he texted me at 6 am when he woke up for work the next day and said he wanted to see me again. Did not smash until 3rd or 4th date
Met on a dating app! I sent him a DM cos his profile bio was funny
We worked at the same company š¹ We did a project together once. Later I asked if he wanted to play a co-op(split screen) game together after work. He said yes. Was new and looking for a friend, got something more. š
We met at a social hangout I found on Meetup.com a few years ago. Been married for a year!
College! My friend begged me to take a speech class with her, and we met a guy in that class that both of us enjoyed hanging out with. The guy was a drummer in a band and introduced us to his bandmates. I was in a relationship at the time, but I thought the bass player was cute. Fast forward 3-4 years, the bass player randomly messaged me on Facebook, and we’ve now been together for 13 years, married 4, with two kids!
My best friend introduced me to him.
At work!
Online dating. We liked each other immediately.
I met him on a video game, Counter Strike. It queues you up with people in your region and he happened to be about 20 minutes away. We were friends and talked online for a few months before going on a first date, I barely knew what he looked like, but I already knew I liked him because of our conversations. We’ve been together almost 4 years, with a 4 month old daughter. My sister also found her partner through video games too, they met playing Rust.
Just as we were literally both about to quit dating apps we matched. š®āšØ
We worked within 1 mile of each other.
Texted for not even a whole day and made plans to meet.
We didn’t kiss until the 3rd date and noe we’re engaged.
Late 2018, I was 24 and he was 25 when we met. We both played in local bands. He’s a drummer and I’m a guitar player / singer. After practice one day, me and the bassist wanted to grab a drink and our drummer brought us to a bar where his friend’s band happened to be hanging out. Bummed a cigarette off of the tall hot guy with tattoos, a mustache, dressed in all black. Didn’t really think anything of it. Wasn’t interested in dating and believe it or not he wasn’t really my type at the time (my type at the time was ugly, dumb and mean).
He came to every single show I ever played and begged me to grab a drink with him “just once!!!”. We’ve been together for 6 years now, married for 4.
I found him on Bumble and he had a photo of him next to a friend of mine (jiu jitsu coach). Swiped right and took a screenshot of it to ask about him but we never matched and I totally forgot all about it. I was too exhausted to really date so I didnāt put too much effort. We ended up matching on Tinder, he sent me a message asking if I trained under said coach and he immediately asked to exchanged numbers. Texted for a little bit, he expressed wanting to meet but we never really made solid plans so I thought he was stringing me along. I stopped responding but on the day after Christmas, he texted me. Our team was out at the bar for drinks and I told my coach I didnāt wanna meet up anymore but my coach insisted that heās a decent guy and that I should text him back. I did and he apologized for being busy with life and drove 2 hours to see me 2 weeks later. I am so happy to be with him and I have my coach to be forever grateful to.
Facebook Dating. Which we both think is hilarious. We were both on there just to dip our toes the water and very cynical about dating in general. I guess we figured that particular dating venue would be extremely low investment.
I didn’t actually go on a date with anyone for a whole year, until I matched with him. Literally everyone else was a scuzzball. Either immediately looking to get laid or pulling some disrespectful crap on day 1.
I was getting really discouraged by the time we matched. But we clicked instantly. Our relationship started and continued with amazingly open and honest communication. No games, no tap dancing around trying to impress each other. We joke now that we spent a couple of weeks trying to run each other off, but failed. He is everything I dreamed of in a man, just showed up on different packaging. (I’m a boring suburban mom. It never occurred to me that I could be compatible with someone who has death metal band tattoos and a mohawk hairstyle. lol)
I met my husband on Reddit! During the pandemic I decided I was really into gardening, but didnāt actually know a lot about it. Ā I turned to a reddit forum for gardeners in my local area to look for tips, local meet upās/ classes.
My husband was also a member of the forum, he was very helpful with giving me guidance on some local classes, and we started chatting. I ended up joining a few of the classes he recommended, met him online a few times before finally inviting him over to come āsee my tomatoesā (he did not, in fact, look at my tomatoes when he came over that first time, haha!)Ā
I just started seeing someone, met through my sibling as they are friends. Itās been awkward lmao.
Tinder, wasn’t looking for anyone just wanted to have fun to get my self-esteem up after 3 years in a relationship. I was on tinder for maybe a few months till I wanted to call it quits after the last two dates I booked. One of them was fun and 9 years later we are still going strong.
I would never of imagined my tinder date would be my long lasting partner. I really thought I was ready to be single longer to just vibe and have fun, but life has plans and I did not plan this. This was also 2016 so I don’t know what Tinder is like now almost a decade later. I would probably try speed dating if I was getting back in the dating pool.
He was my coworker and we became friends first. After hanging out as friends all the time after work, we decided to try dating.
Facebook suggested his profile to me as a potential friend when I was a teenager in 2006. Thought he was the most beautiful boy I had ever seen. Found out his class schedule and switched one of my classes to his. Together almost 20 years now, married for 12.
In a bar. He was friends with someone I was there with. This was 4 days before I turned 30.
Thanks for sharing. This gives me so much hope!
Got set up on a blind date by mutual friends. One year later he put a ring on it. Heās my best friend and I love that he wasnāt a total rando and already vetted by my friends. I had deleted all my dating apps like 6+ months prior and just focused on myself. Was not actively looking.
We matched on tinder. Originally met to hook up but when we saw each other for the first time it was like lightning. Been together almost 8 years, married for 6. All it took was a flick of the thumb to swipe right! š
Hinge
Through his brothers. I went to college with his brothers and we had a club picnic and they brought their older brother. He was grilling and we bonded over steaks. Weāve been married for 4 years now.
We met at a mutual friend’s going-away party. We became good friends, then dated for a bit before long distance ended the relationship.
8 years later, I slide into his DMs saying I found his doppleganger. Weāve been together since then š
I was out for a walk on the beach and he was out for a run. We passed each other and made eye contact and I smiled at him because I thought he was cute! Thankfully he thought I was cute too so he u-turned and introduced himself. He asked if he could walk with me and we ended up walking and chatting for 2 hours! We agreed we didnāt want the talk to end and he asked me on a date for the following week. That was over a year ago and weāre going strong, now we run on the beach together!
She was a friend of an acquaintance, came to visit her friend and I happened to be there. There was just an immediate spark and we both quickly fell for eachother that day. She moved to my city about 2 weeks later, and found a job here with me, and we’ve been together for 8 years now!
Our mutual gay bestie introduced us via a blind date, since we were both looking for good, NSA sex lol. It was actually my bestie’s second try. I was actually a little hesitant until he threw the blind date approach at me. The rest was pure luck I think. It just so happened that we aligned in a lot of aspects and got along like a house on fire despite being total opposites. Before either of us knew, our connection had grown way deeper than anyone expected. That was 2020, we got married last year and our cupid officiated. š
Sometimes it takes someone’s intuition Ig? He broke my awful dating track record haha. It seems like I suck at picking them so someone else had to pick for me xD
We met in the gym! He came up to me, we talked, flirted and 8 years later weāre parents of a 1,5 yo!
Tinder. Our first date lasted 12 hours and we have been together for 8 years, we got engaged this year and we are planning our wedding for 2027. I got lucky!
Through Bumble in 2021,first date was a Zoom date and we had our son same year lol
Given today’s climate, I’m petrified to even approach anyone romantically at work.
met my current partner in the music scene we’re both a part of š was talking to his friend at a show and the friend waved him over. i’d actually noticed him walk in and thought he was really a qt. we were already friends on insta and he posted a flyer about a house show him and his friends were throwing. slipped into his dms and invited myselffff and from there it was all pretty intuitive. oh also, he’s younger than me! i had to be open to that
A community volleyball group for beginners!
My current partner, I met over 5 years years ago at 6am on a Sunday for an ice bath challenge. He asked me out, our coffee date ended up being a 9-hour date which only ended because he had to work (we are both remote workers). We went on a few more dates when he shared he had to return to Switzerland (beginning of COVID), and invited me on a 3 week trip. It was amazing but a lot happened between then and when we got in a relationship due to COVID. We are together now for nearly 3 years
I met mine thru work. He works in IT and was due for a new laptop, as he was transferring my files to the new laptop, we were just talking and had a good conversation. He dropped the hint he was single and I was like āok, what do I do with this informationā lol. It wasnāt about 2 months later he asked me out for a 2 day date. We keep it very professional at work and our paths donāt cross much at work either.
He came up as a suggested person on my instagram feed hahaha. He looked hot so I stalked his profile and saw we had a tonne of quite specific interests/hobbies in common, followed him and he immediately followed me back. We exchanged a couple of messages then both dropped off. A few months later he posted a story with one of my favourite songs on it and I sent him another message, we got to chatting about music and exchanging songs, then somewhere along the line we just started chatting every day. Then we started playing scrabble together and sending pics and just kind of being in contact all the time. We met in person and spent 24 hours together and it just clicked. Itās still early days and weāre medium-distance but making it work and itās going amazingly, I just got back from 4 days with him.
I met mine in my dreams. I see him every night and weāve been together ever since.
Training to lead volunteer workers at an urban farm! We were both unemployed and living with our parents at the time, looking for something to do and a way to make friends in a new city. That was over a decade ago and been together ever since š
Bumble. I was living my best life single with my cat in my apartment and working my day job as a admin and my night job at a brewery. Single 1.5 years after a disaster of a breakup where I came home from work to an empty house one afternoon after he packed and moved while I was at work. $2,000 on the kitchen counter to cover my bills for 2 months until the lease was up. Turned out he was moving in with his affair partner. Wasnāt super interested in dating but also for some reason – worried that if I wasnāt at least half ass trying I wouldnāt meet anyone (I told this to my mom).
Lo and behold – swiped right on a guy in November 2022. We are getting married July 2026. It was a fluke. Or divine intervention. Or the universe coming together. Who knows.
I went to the beach solo on a random weekday. I left to grab a sandwich from a random deli and saw signs for a garage sale. I followed those signs – this guy was going through the crate of records and buying up all the records worth buying. I made a comment like, “leave some for the rest of us.” He gave me a record I wanted and asked for my number.
I was reluctant about giving him my number because I was newly divorced and wasn’t very attracted to him at first. But here we are over 6 years later š
Swiped on him on Bumble, he told me he was looking for friends with benefits (and so was I) and my opener was about a game show. He asked me to coffee the Saturday after we started talking. Since then I think we have literally spent no more than 5 days apart in a row.
I was single and ready to mingle at 30 after a 7 year relationship. We met through Hinge.
Our first date lasted 4 hours and we got kicked out of the restaurant because they had to close. The connection was immediate and it just clicked. We met on a Sunday and I think by Wednesday we had booked a two week trip to Mexico lol. The rest is pretty much history after I met his parents in Europe the following spring.
Engaged within the year. Married by the third. Now weāre living life and on the cusp of early retirement before 40.
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Work a decade ago
Work. Sat by him for years. Started to like the things he said and how he said them. Blew up our careersā¦7 years later, we are both more successful and going strong.