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To sum it up my little sister has cancer. It spread to the bone. My sister in law is a nurse and she knows what that means. My little sister might not make it to her 26th birthday. Idk what to do. I never been the big bother to show emotion when needed. I tend to come out heartless. I’m going this week to visit her but idk how I can see her without breaking down. I hate this feeling. Feeling like I’m giving up. She is going to see another doctor for a second opinion, her doctor is helping her out to seek that second opinion. I’m the type to separate facts with feelings, but this time I can’t. Idk if I can see her without showing emotions. I love her so much. She is the little sister that I argued with for stupid things. Regardless of what happened we would be mad and not talk for a while but then act like nothing ever happened when things went back to normal. She fought this battle for about 2-3 years now. My parents try to be in the hospital with her 24/7. I visit when I can, but each time it gets hard to act like everything is normal. What can I do to support her? I feel like me being there is not enough. Thank you guys for reading this far! Idk if I’ll post an update. I just need advice.
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To sum it up my little sister has cancer. It spread to the bone. My sister in law is a nurse and she knows what that means. My little sister might not make it to her 26th birthday. Idk what to do. I never been the big bother to show emotion when needed. I tend to come out heartless. I’m going this week to visit her but idk how I can see her without breaking down. I hate this feeling. Feeling like I’m giving up. She is going to see another doctor for a second opinion, her doctor is helping her out to seek that second opinion. I’m the type to separate facts with feelings, but this time I can’t. Idk if I can see her without showing emotions. I love her so much. She is the little sister that I argued with for stupid things. Regardless of what happened we would be mad and not talk for a while but then act like nothing ever happened when things went back to normal. She fought this battle for about 2-3 years now. My parents try to be in the hospital with her 24/7. I visit when I can, but each time it gets hard to act like everything is normal. What can I do to support her? I feel like me being there is not enough. Thank you guys for reading this far! Idk if I’ll post an update. I just need advice.
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I am sorry this is happening. As a Cancerworld resident I can say words like, “I love you & have no idea what to say” are gold. Your presence alone is great. And you may want to check out inheritanceofhope.org for free family resources.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can’t imagine the pain of seeing a loved one suffer like that. Honestly, just being there with her, even if you don’t know what to say, is probably more meaningful than you realize. Sometimes it’s the quiet presence, the simple act of showing up, that gives the most comfort. You don’t have to have all the answers or be strong all the time. Just your love and support will mean the world to her. Be kind to yourself too during this time.
My BIL also became very ill with cancer when he was young. We learned to follow his lead when we visited. If he was talking about what he was going to do when he got better, we discussed that. If he was angry, we listened. If he was in denial about his cancer, we didn’t try to contradict him. If he talked about dying, that’s what we talked about.
We took him to see a specialist and then he left the room with his mom. We stayed and talked a bit longer with the specialist. He told us what to expect and how we could help.
It’s a hard road for your family but hardest on the person with cancer.
I am so sorry your family is going through this.
I don’t know what type of cancer your sister has but what some others have done is to train for events – long bike rides, walks or runs that support research into cancer or a particular cancer. The money raised has helped with research grants and companionship with others who lost family members has been invaluable.