So my fiancé of 4 years cheated on me. 5 times. Found this out after working for like a year straight saving money fo us. Found out a month ago so I’m past the shock stage and honestly this event has kinda changed me.
I’m thinking of just traveling, having cool experiences, partying etc for like a year until the money runs out then I guess I can go home or kill myself depending on the mood.
I have moved to her country 2 months ago and found out a month ago, so I don’t really feel like I can stay here and work like the original plan.
I just want to try feel alive I guess. I’ve been so straight edge and loyal and kind boring I guess and this was the reward.
Edit: I’m 24 btw, graduated college, had a year working in govt. Was planning to work in education in her country but not feeling like it now.
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Travel, enjoy, be free.
You should probably put the money in an index fund dude. You could find work on a cruise ship to travel and get paid.
Move somewhere you want to be and figure it out when you get there. Your life will enter a new era. I’m sorry this happened to you, but better you found out now than 4 years from now when you were married.
I hear Sweden is nice this time of year
Aw man, where did you move to?
You know what you need to do! Move on. Figure out what you want to do and where, but don’t blow through your cash until you settle in and find a job you like. Build up some PTO time and then take time for yourself.
Good luck moving forward.
Bro book a cruise for like 1500$, then go on backpacking trip for a month, then go to Thailand. After a two months get back at it
savings are savings; you should take a trip to ease your mind but definitely don’t blow through all your money mindlessly. $20k, $15k, whatever it is, invest that into index funds and it will grow.
I also don’t know if you have any debts but those should be paid off before anything.
What you’re feeling right now is 100% real and totally sucks. Just awful. I am so sorry!
Please grab onto this fact – your feelings do not reflect OBJECTIVE reality. It will get better and you will feel better.
Spend some of your money – but save most of it. You’re going to want it later to buy a home, a car, or even for retirement.
Don’t blow it all but do take some time to be good to yourself. A trip sounds ideal.
Move to your home country. Down paynent on some land and a gym membership paid a year in advance.
Put some of the money into a ROTH IRA. Dont let one mistake create others. Move on. You are young.
Hmmm… don’t let her know you’re leaving. Organise your stuff to be shipped the day that you leave. Transfer all of your money to a different bank and get the cards you need. Then, when she is out at work, get your stuff gone, then leave. And block her phone and socials. Travelling can be fun. There are tons of under 30 travel groups about. Book a tour to somewhere you haven’t been but always wanted to go. After that you might be less stressed and be able to enjoy the single lifestyle. Goodluck
bro take a break, travel smart not reckless. don’t burn the 20k just to feel something. spend a bit, clear your head, then figure out what’s next. you’re 24, not done yet.
Ditch the fiancé and the suicidal thoughts. Do whatever you want. I’d go check out Denmark or the Netherlands. Maybe Italy. Eat some good food. Visit the museums. Flirt with lots of people.
There is so much to life. Don’t let someone take that from you! Go enjoy life! Travel, have experiences. The world is your oyster my friend!
The way you’re thinking means you’re not over it. You’re being fatalistic.
Malcolm X says, “Betrayal is worse than murder.”
Consider therapy or groups you may join, even for board games, or bowling or martial arts, etc.to get out of your head.
Have some fun, you deserve it. But don’t blow all your money, if you do you’ll definitely regret it down the line.