Anytime, I think he’s being suspicious. He gets mad at me for saying that I think he’s being suspicious and calls me mean. He cheated on me for four months straight. Nothing physical just texting girls. We broke up got back together. He swore he changed everything for me. He wanted to be better for me and then we got in a really bad fight and then he got dating apps and hit up prostitutes. He said he only did that because he thought we were done and he was hurting and he admitted to having a problem in regards of the prostitute, but won’t really talk about it. Anytime I try to bring up the cheating he gets annoyed or mad. He wasn’t answering for hours, so I thought he was sus. And he got mad at me for that instead of reassuring me, even after all the fucking cheating he did. Why am I still with him? Because he promises me he loves me and wants to be the best for me. He promises it’s only me that he wants. And I may be stupid for believing it this time again
TL; DR
He says he’ll do anything to gain my trust back after cheating a lot but when I need reassurance, he gets defensive and tries to argue
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It might as well been physical , if the girls gave him a chance . Same thing
You’re both young and honestly this relationship sounds toxic. Don’t believe a cheater’s lies, your boyfriend clearly has issues which he needs to resolve himself. If your boyfriend can’t reassure you, then you’ll never be able to build trust and move on together.
Do yourself a favour, dump him, and move on so you can find a partner who respects you and does not cheat on you.
He said he loves you.
After cheating on you for four months straight. After hiring prostitutes as soon as you break up. After deciding your closure and peace wasn’t worth his discomfort when talking about the cheating.
Do you feel loved?
He should be your ex
This sounds exactly how serial cheaters act.
First off he says they were just texting and there was nothing physical however you know that had that girl given him the chance in person he would have gotten physical.
second cheaters ALWAYS and I do mean ALWAYS swear that they have changed but in reality nothing changes.
Third him trying to justify it with “I thought we were done”, he could have just broken it off and then done it and there would have been zero issue but he didnt.
Fourth prostitute??? really??? coooooooooome on now you know he is taking it physical. The fact he still wont talk about it means “i know she will get mad and I dont want to give her all of the facts because she will leave me” which you have EVERY RIGHT to the facts.
Fifth cheaters always get mad at you when you question them, they use anger to try and push you away to give them space to do what they need to do, another tactic is he will eventually accuse you of cheating because then you are on your heels and trying to defend yourself rather than pay attention to him.
Lastly cheaters always love bomb at the end, they want to say whatever they have to in order to make you feel like only they can love you the way they do because its so powerful and special. it isnt.
as someone who has fallen for the serial cheater and recognizes this playbook all to well, please end the relationship because he will do it again and again and again until you leave for good. then he will do it to the next woman.