Why is this an unpopular opinion? Because it seems that most of the posts or real people I’ve spoken to about this topic has the payee very much disagreeing with me and they should, apparently, be allowed to use that money to their own discretion.
I believe if someone has been ordered to pay for a child’s upkeep to the other parent, they should at least be allowed to see what that moneybwas being spent on and any left over should be going into a bank account for the child.
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This is only an unpopular opinion for people collecting child support.
If you’ve been ordered I can’t lie that makes you a loser, why does anyone need to be court ordered to pay for a child they created. Also the amount court ordered is usually ridiculous in the uk, far below what the actual cost of living and raising a child is… like even a higher amount eg £400/500 a month isn’t anything once you add mortgage/rent, utilities, groceries, school uniform blah blah
You don’t get to control or dictate how I take care of my child with my money. Sorry.
i’ve got 6 payments left after 15 years of paying child support. i’ve also given her way more than what was legally required, because SHE IS THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD AND DESERVES THAT RESPECT
In Georgia, and I’ve never been divorced or had a good, so correct me if I’m wrong, you pay into a sate-run system as child support is ordered by the court. That system disperses the money to the parent entitled to child support.
But the should the payee have to turn over receipts? Not unless some type of fraud or misuse is demonstrated. That’s just rife with opportunity for the payer to try to exert even more control over the situation. You’re divorced/no longer together. It’s over. It sucks but don’t have a kid if you don’t want this responsibility.
It’s unpopular because lots of parents think all the money is for them and their hobbies.
I agree with being able to see where the money goes, but a bank account doesn’t provide that.
Child support pays for housing, utilities, food, clothing, entertainment, and anything else for the child.
As someone who paid hundreds of thousands in child support while my kids were sent to visit me wearing shoddy clothes and shoes that were too small, never went on any trips, or other enrichment activities besides sports that I paid for….I agree this should be done in some cases.
Most parents receiving support do spent the money on their kids, and this level of scrutiny would be unwarranted an invasive.
But in cases where there’s an obvious discrepancy between amounts paid and the kids’ quality of life there should be an oversight mechanism.
My kids were being left at home while their mom was going to eat out several times per week, and I’m absolutely certain the majority of the support paid went to lawyers when she tried and failed to have my parental rights removed. She also has a pretty nice townhouse now that I think I paid a good portion of.
I read the part that said “any left over” and laughed so hard I nearly choked. How much do you think these people are paying compared to how much it costs to raise a child?
ALL the money is being spent on the child. Why? Because even if mom gets her nails done with that particular money, is because her other money has been used for things like rent, food, electricity, school fees, activities , haircuts, medication, child care, and a bunch of other things he the kid needs of which child support doesn’t even touch the sides.
Child support is reimbursement. As long as the child is cared for, it’s none of your business.