TL DR : I (M30) am getting closer to my colleague (F27). We kissed 2 months ago, she’s emotionally cautious due past relationships, but wants to keep discovering each other. After I suggested meeting outside of work (she accepted enthusiastically), she said she really wants to come to my small, intimate birthday party. How can I interpret this ?
Hey everyone,
I’m seeking some insights regarding a situation with a woman I’m seeing.
I (M30, French), have been getting to know a colleague (F27, Ukrainian) over the past few months. She’s generally very prudent and has shared that she’s been deeply affected by the war and past relationship disappointments, making her hesitant about commitment.
Our connection has been progressing slowly but steadily: we shared a kiss a few months ago, and she opened up about her fears for commitment, nonetheless stating she wants to “continue getting to know each other.”
My birthday is in October. We will of course get to see each other outside of work until this moment. One day after I suggested we meet outside of work on a Saturday (which she accepted enthusiastically our first time seeing each other outside of work since the kiss), she has explicitly expressed her desire to come to my birthday party. This will be a rather small gathering with my closest friends, my brother. She’s aware of that.
My question to you is:
Given her background and the stage of our relationship (still in a “getting to know each other” phase, no verbal definition yet, but strong emotional connection, gesture, little gift from her), how significant is her expressed desire to come to my intimate birthday party, especially knowing that my closest friends and family will be there?
In my French context, I think this would be a signal of romantic interest and a desire for serious integration into my personal life, rather than just friendship. How this gesture can be viewed in your opinion ?
Any insights or interpretations would be immensely appreciated.
More specifically, any advice on understanding the specificities of romantic relationships in Ukraine / Slavic world would be welcome.
Thank you very much!
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D’un point de vue extérieur, si elle veut venir à ta fête d’anniversaire et rencontrer ta famille, c’est qu’elle probablement l’intention d’établir une relation avec toi.
Pose lui la question pour être sûr.