I’m a single female. I’m very happy being single. I was on tinder but I realised I’m very happy being single.
I broke up with someone about 7 years ago. Not long after that, I started a course with full time work, so I never had time to be seeing anyone. Next thing, 2020 and covid happened. Then in 2021, my landlord gave me 6 months notice to move and because of covid, I wanted a place by myself. It took me 5 months to find a place with a month to spare to move my things. So I moved in by myself in early 2022 and I was still keeping distance from people because covid scared me. And I realised I’m happy on my own. On now we are in 2025. And I don’t know where the time went at all.
I work in a large place and I have a colleague who tried to match me up with another colleague. Just said so and so is single, is smart and whatever else like I’m desperate. I don’t go to work to find someone to date and I’m not desperate. All I could think of was telling him that I didn’t like him like that. And anyways it is completely unfair if I go after someone else in work because I do have a crush in work and it was the person who said this. So at this moment in time, it is completely unfair if I pursue someone else in work.
How do I shut this person down if he brings it up again?
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Just say, “I appreciate you thinking of me, but I’m not interested in dating anyone at work right now.” Keep it short and sweet. Will that work?
Tell this person that you prefer to keep your personal and professional lives separate, and do not care to discuss your relationships with a coworker. Thank them for their i tetest, but you are NOT interested.
Go to HR, your supervisor or a senior staff member if this person continues to pressure or pry, and ask them to put a stop to this.
Best wishes!
you could just say something like ‘Im actually really happy on my own right now not looking to date anyone especially at work.’ that keeps it simple and honest without making things weird and you dont needto explain yourself to anyone. if its the guy you have a crush on doing the matchmaking maybe he is just awkwardly trying to connect with you in his own weird way!
Unless you are asking me out…which, ya know I’m kinda down for…stop recommending people to me like you are my pimp. Put up or shut up, buddy!
never shit where you eat