College and Moving

I’m starting college soon and my move in date is coming up fast at the end of the month. Due to some issues with my dad and him being unsupportive of my roommates gender/sexual identities, he has made it clear that if my school cannot change my room before move in that he will not allow me to move in and i’ll have to wait until they can switch me in september. i do NOT want to stay home any longer and ive been desperate to get to college so i can explore my independence and to experience welcome week, as ive heard its great for my school and i know for a fact i wouldn’t be able to participate otherwise because i dont own a car and my dad would not drive me for it and i don’t have easily accessible public transport that’s near my house. im emailing to get it sorted out but worst case scenario ill have to wait until september and i cannot see myself staying home until then. id like to note my dad isn’t paying for my college, a distant family member is and he’s only paying for stuff like my furniture. if i cant get a change sorted, should i just wing it and move out anyways and just take over my personal finances? i’m scared that it’ll ruin our relationship but i have been continuously denied freedom and he’s made it clear he won’t see me as an adult until i graduate college and im tired of not being able to make decisions for myself and my future.