My wife says Im slow(or does something to upset me) and I shake my head and say can you stop talking to me like that.
She doesn’t like when I shake my head so she gets upset at me because I shook my head at something she has to talk about what I did and how its wrong and I get frustrated that we’re not talking about what she did in the first place.
She always says I start argument by shaking my head or a facial expressions and I feel im just having a emotion and show it. I’ve tried to not do these things but I can’t catch them all the time. Is it not normal to have these facial expressions and shaking my head since it upsets her and I can’t seem to stop it or is this a normal human to have these facial expressions and show them.
Im not allowed to set boundaries of i dont want to speak to each other like that or I won’t tolerate this. She always says im attacking here and im starting a argument its never ok im sorry I’ll try not to do that its always reversed on me that im not changing so shes not changing.
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So what im asking here is:
I dont know how to address this to her and talk about all this does anyone have any suggestions on how to communicate any of this? Or she never going to see it from my point of view?
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You’re not allowed to set boundaries? Are you married to your mother? Look this isn’t a marriage. This is a mommy/son dynamic.
If you want to stay marriage counseling is a must but I’ll be honest, unless your wife gets individual counseling to deal with her control issues, nothing will change