Communication through texts F25 and M25

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I’m wondering if anyone has experienced the same thing with their partner and how they dealt with it. And I want to know whether I’m overreacting, because I’m aware I can be too sensitive sometimes. We’ve been dating for seven months.

When we text, sometimes he doesn’t reply to certain texts. As if he didn’t read it. Like if I say something sweet, he replies but not with something sweet in return. I talked about it with him a few times and the last time it happened I got really upset. I’ll point it out and then he’ll reply with something sweet, but it’s the fact I have to point it out. And it’s more upsetting when you’ve communicated how much it bothers you. I’ve seen he did that to his friend as well when he was texting him, so I know it’s nothing personal. It’s just how he is. Is it wrong for me to feel annoyed by that? For context, we’ve been having some fights lately because of me so I also don’t want to point it out everytime it happens.

TL;DR
Not replying to texts sometimes. It’s just his character. I’ve told him it bothers me. How to deal with it? Or am I overreacting?

Comments

  1. Unlikely-Future2542 Avatar

    It’s possible he doesn’t know how to fully respond because no one has “shown” him the way. Men nowadays need a lot of help with social skills, we get very little beneficial and accurate advice and when we try and fail we get called toxicly male getting no real opportunity to grow. So if you care about him, you should think of a way you could talk to him about giving you a response you want in a way that benefits him as well. Then if he doesn’t feel any change after responding sweetly 3 or 4 times it’s not something he naturally wants to do and you have to decide if you can accept that in your relationship.