We have gone very low contact with my in-laws after some drama with SIL and telling her to grow tf up and that we were done after her having zero interest in our kids lives, but parading on social media like aunt of the year. When we ARE with mil and fil, I dont say much, make myself busy, etc., and she doesnt talk to me either. Just as well! BUT…..she is sending me these stupid texts like “I hope you have a great day!”, “Hope you have a good week.” Every. Single. Week.
She isn’t sending these to my husband. We dont talk in person. Hell, we didnt even talk at my daughters birthday party last week. I am so sick of these texts. I either give her a 👍 or dont respond. I never text back hoping she will get the hint. If we actually had a good relationship and talked in person, these would be appreciated. But it feels like a narcissist tactic that she is using and I am over it. Would you respond with a wtf text or just leave her hanging?
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Take the high road and just don’t respond. Because, you know….”busy”.
Eh, she’s doing it to have receipts proving that she’s “trying.”
Yea, she is, but not in the way she’s thinking. Unless there’s an actual reason that she needs to be able to reach you, mute and ignore. And set up your social media so that she can’t post on your timelines, or share your content.
If she can’t put in the effort, she doesn’t need to be cobbing off of you to impress her Facebook buddies.
This is the tactic where they pretend to be the bigger person. They also keep contacting you because they know you don’t want to hear from them. It’s a form of bullying. Then she will tell your IL’s about how hard she tried and everything she did while you were a big meanie. Ask me how I know….
So I’ve read some of your posts. She sucks. Can you just block her? It would be easier than dealing with her BS IMO.
Just block her and forget about it.
This sounds like baiting. She notices you’re cold and distant so she is doing something performative with receipts to prove you ignore her or don’t make an effort with her.
I would stop giving her the thumbs up or even opening her messages, if not block her. Delete them immediately and move on with your day.
The only thing a narcissist hates more than being held accountable is being ignored.
Edit to add: Im NC with my MIL for a year and my husband finally stopped accepting cards from her for me on mothers day after I made it clear this was not going to fly and I would return anything he brought home. He had to uphold my NC boundary and she blew up at him. She sent a photo of the contents of the card over text and made a weird comment about how we (DH or I) needed to make an effort with her to mend things lol
The card was “being a mother is the best! Hope dh made today special cut you. Give LO a kiss for me” like… lady, I told you exactly what my problems with you were and told you i want nothing to do with you… this card is ignoring reality of how fake and unwanted any type of communication is and I have no desire to mend things with her lol This is the same baiting. Throwing out whatever she can to test the waters and try and make me feel guilty into softening.
Block her. You don’t owe her fake niceties.