I’ve been with her for almost two years. She has a lot of trouble making friends to hang out/play games with. She’s been bullied for a while when she used to be in school. Since then, she’s been depressed. She has no friends whatsoever. Absolutely no one. She’s been out of school now + does not have work currently.
We’ve made a lot of efforts collectively to get her girl friends. When she does make one, she geniunely gets so excited. A lot of those excitements turn into disappointments when they stop talking to her.
One day, she told me she made a guy friend, and I asked her where she met him from. She said Wizz. The app is meant to make friends on there. However a lot of people use it like a dating app, even for hook ups.
She said she had to use her face in the app or else her account would be taken down, and when I looked at her profile, her biography did say “Need friends to play games with”. She had the account up for a day. She deleted the account afterwards I told her I am not sure how to feel about it.
I just wish she had told me about this before she got the app. I am not sure if she had any ill intention–is this considered cheating?
In the past, I believe she has actually found some talking stages in apps similar to that.
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I wouldn’t consider it cheating. She should be able to have male friends as long as they are totally platonic.
Do you consider it cheating?
That’s not cheating in my book. Intent matters
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Don’t you get to play board games / video games with them in a group?
Cheating implies lying, which she didn’t do and seemed very transparent. She could be naive enough to believe men are inherently looking for platonic female internet friends, but that’s your call. Lonely ppl soak up attention like a sponge, I wouldn’t even consider this microcheating so long as you’re aware.
i would get mad if i saw my partner with this aswell but if you have trust in them and they deleted it i see it as problem solved, just have a talk about it! i don’t think your being insecure aswell this is a valid reason to think you can be cheated on. A simple talk can clear things up! maybe try introducing them to friends?
So some churches ( and other community organizations) have weekly events. We used to play volleyball and softball every week and we were not members but invited by someone. It was a lot of fun and we ended up meeting new people, some of whom have stayed friends for a long time. Find some activity to do together (bowling league even) and you will find people to hang with without all the pseudo dating drama internet apps bring.
She didn’t do anything behind your back, lie or try to hide the person. She told you about the guy rather than you finding out about it by other means.
It honestly sounds like you’re a bit insecure about it because it’s a guy. That’s not to say that the guy doesn’t have any ulterior motives, but she was upfront about every bit of it and you mentioned she described her intent on using the app.
I wouldn’t consider this one bit of cheating.
Based on what you told us about your gf, I would not consider that cheating. I actually feel a little bad for her, truth be told.
Does she have any hobbies or interests outside of gaming? I know they have group meet ups. What about the girlfriends of your guy friends?
No, she did not consider cheating.
You need to include yourself in their conversations,
At a minimum, it is ill advised
Why do i sense you’re the insecure/controlling type?
If this is cheating I’ve cheated on my wife many times. And I never have.
It sounds like she legit is using it to make friends. Would you feel the same way if she had met someone on Reddit? Instagram? My guess is yes and this has more to do with it being a guy than what app was used.
Male friends? Just stop
At the end how you felt that matters. People are rarely that oblivious to the situation. But the next one could be way worse.
This situation sounds layered, and I can tell you’re trying to balance empathy for her struggles with your own feelings of uncertainty. Whether this is “cheating” depends a lot on the boundaries you’ve both set in your relationship. If you’ve never discussed using apps like Wizz before, it might not be outright cheating, but her choice of platform—especially one with a reputation for hookups. Understandably stings. Her loneliness and past disappointments likely drove her to seek connection quickly, even if it meant using an app that made you uncomfortable. The fact that she deleted the account after you shared your feelings suggests she cares about your peace of mind, but it’s also okay to feel uneasy about the secrecy.
Instead of labeling it, focus on how it impacted trust. Maybe say something like “I know you were just looking for friends, but using that app without talking to me first left me feeling unsure about where we stand”. This opens a conversation rather than an accusation. Ask her how she’d feel if roles were reversed—would she worry about intentions? Maybe brainstorm safer ways for her to connect with people (Discord servers for gaming, Bumble BFF, etc.) so she doesn’t default to apps that blur lines. If past “talking stages” on similar apps are still weighing on you, address that pattern gently. The goal isn’t to police her loneliness but to rebuild clarity and teamwork.You’re not wrong for wanting openness, and she’s not wrong for craving connection. I think its more about bridging that gap.
What games does she play? I have a pretty active discord group with a very welcoming mix of guys and girls, if she wants some people to play games! I’m also a guy but live with my gf of 4.5 years soon to be fiancé
Doesn’t sound like cheating to me fwiw.
Keep an eye on it.. never fully trust it.. be smart about it.