Location: indiana
My partner of 18 years recently left me for another woman who was supposed to be my friend. We have children together one is disabled. And we cohabited for the first few months of the breakup because he refused to move out and quite frankly I’m a doormat.
Our relationship was not healthy. I wont go into details but the shortest way to say it is that he was abusive towards me in multiple ways, and i was reactively abusive. We traumatized eachother. I am in therapy, he is not. I am working on learning how to establish and enforce boundaries andhe just is not respecting the boundaries. We cant go 5 days without getting into an argument.
I’ve tried everything to get along with him and he has resisted every boundary I have tried to place since the breakup. While he was still living here and dating the other woman. He went through my text messages and found out I went on a date with my ex from 20 years ago and threatened to kill me and broke a window and threatened to kill himself with a shard of glass unless i agreed to never talk to that man again, and then admitted that he was upset because he thought i would wait for him to figure out what he needed and would give him another chance if he decided he wanted to try again. The window was in our son’s room and our son wasnt. But he probably heard everything as he is a teenager and is autistic with level three autism. Our daughter does not.
He moved out immediately after, and started attempting to follow the boundaries. But by that point between him invading my privacy, gaslighting me, manipulating me, isolating me, controlling who I cant talk to and telling me not to talk about the break up to anyone at all except my therapist and telling me none of our mutual friends are my friends they are all his. I am fully paranoid.
As a result I cant interact with him without being triggered by something small and we are constantly fighting. We’ve tried keeping conversations to only about the kids, but he keeps putting in information in those conversations that set me off thinking he is checking my messages and stuff again somehow.
I dont want him to have supervised visits or less time with the kids. I do not think he is a threat to them only a threat to my mental health which is still fragile at the moment.
What is the likelihood that will happen if I go get the protective order?
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You haven’t said anything that would result in a no contact order. Emotional stress with a partner is just that, and not a legal issue. It’s quite common divorces will lead to lots of arguments.