My bf and I have a toddler together and he has moved in with me, but she seems to sabotage our relationship and he moves back home. But I think she just wants to take part of his pay checks. This woman is 64 and on SSI and working part time. Why does she need his money? Also she is the only one with a vehicle at the house and they live 25 min out of town. She’s happy to take him to work as long as she gets his money. They got into a huge fight and he said he was done, but he’s right back there. She tells him all I want to do is “argue” because I don’t understand why she wouldn’t encourage him to be independent and save for a car etc. She doesn’t like me bc I say it like it is and call her out, but man that bond is strong. Cut ties or?
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Run. Now. It’s not going to get better.
Go to counseling. If they can’t help open his eyes I’d end it.
It appears that he is not ready to commit to another woman, when he’s so strongly committed to the one he has already. I know this sucks, I hope you can work it out.
It sucks but your boyfriend isn’t old enough or mature enough for a serious relationship or being a father.
Getting in a relationship and having a child with a momma’s boy almost always ends badly.
I hope you have child support where you live. Your toddler needs funding before your MIL gets his money.
So she is happy to steal his time and money from out of you and your childs lives aye? How toxic.
File for child support and don’t look back.
Stop having a relationship with a manchild. Go to court and file for custody and child support
Tell dude to stay home with mama until he grows up. You need a man not a mommy’s boy.
Tell him it’s time to make a choice, either the vagina he came out of or the one he wants to cum in! Make it clear that as long as he is living with mommy there is no relationship between you. File for child support and request he be ordered to provide medical coverage and childcare expenses. Advise him that he should get an attorney to arrange visitation/custody order. That should leave him with no money to give his mother.