Has anyone experienced this? Where you have to push your husband to let’s go out, let’s do this, let’s do that?
I got married a year ago, every time me and my husband were solving adulting problems. Either it was related to job, routines, basic chores
We are already in long distance relationship and see each other for few weeks. My husband has a hectic job his job demands meetings, loads of work etc. so he is currently in situation of looking for job.
I feel that we are always stressed so I want break sometimes. We are not those couples who would go out on a Friday night or go to night clubs.
Sometime I would feel like meeting friends, going out for drinks, exploring outdoors etc to break the stress, adulting cycle.
But I feel it is an extra effort to convince my husband to do so. I am not extrovert but with him I do appear as an extrovert and him liking to stay at home all the time.
I get tired of this sometimes. I have tried to talk to him and I appreciate he listens and tries to put some effort sometime but after sometime we are again back to square one where I need to have the same conv again.
Does this happen with someone? I see my sister saying the same thing but she and her husband are in their 40’s with kid so I guess maybe their definition of fun is different. We are in our early 30’s and I do want to live some life while we are managing our stress.
Does this ever change?
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Sounds like what is fun for you is not fun for him. Was he like this before you got married?
Either you accept that he’s a homebody and stay in or you make your own plans and do your own thing without him.
Maybe you can just do these things with your friends instead of having to convince him?
Sounds like the definition of unwinding and fun may be different for him. Is this only regarding to doing things for fun or is he just generally like this with everything?
Your post is confusing. You said he has a hectic job and then you say he’s looking for a job.
If he’s exhausted from work I don’t blame him for just wanting to rest and relax. Pestering him about it isn’t going to help.
People are different. Maybe socializing isn’t his idea of relaxation. I find it tiring and I don’t feel like going out after a long week at work.
What you define as fun, he doesn’t define as fun. He does not want to do it. If he does, he is doing it for your sake. Appreciate the times he does go out for you.