It’s getting annoying. Yes I am overweight and I don’t know why he had to tell me “you look like that student” and it happens to be an overweight girl.
Why do men do this shit? Like I’m not gonna put down these girls looks, but I struggle with my looks and weight .
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“stop commenting on my physical appearance at work, you ugly fuck.”
because a lot of guys are just assholes and they feel weirdly entitled to our appearance. had one guy i worked with when i was younger tell my coworker, “woah! your arms are SO HAIRY! i wouldn’t expect that on a girly girl like you.” like??
“If you are comparing me to other people, you have a problem with yourself. You hate yourself.”
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“Who?”
“The student that..”
“…asked you? Like seriously who asked you?”
“yeah, she’s pretty, thank you! actually, you remind me of one guy i used to know, poor guy was both ugly and a massive loser, you kind of give the same vibes”
explain to them in great detail why their faces are so ugly
He says it because he’s an asshole. If you’re looking for a comeback, here are my favorites:
Some form of, “What did you say?” To get him to repeat it. It takes the wind out of their sails real quick.
“What a weird thing to say/What a weird thing to say to me.” Really disarming.
A while back, a kid (8-10) asked me why I looked so fat, and I told him it was because I was fat. It didn’t wreck him, but it wasn’t satisfying for him either 🙂
Go to HR and report him. And do what another commenter said “stop commenting on my appearance at work you ugly fuck”
“I totally see why no woman will touch you”
“Stop talking to me I don’t like you”
“Worry about your own body”
Or if you’re feeling nicer:
“Nobody asked for your opinion”
“Why would you say that?”
“Stop talking about other people’s bodies it’s rude”
I get mistaken for or told I look like ofher people with my same physical characteristics a lot. Sometimes that’s characteristics are neutral, sometimes not. Did he say how you look alike or make a disparaging comment about you or her?
I like making people explain things and staring at them until they stop. Only little kids and one of my friends (who has a pass) can comment on my body. Ever.
It’s mine. I get to decide things about it.
Actually staring at men and asking them to explain things can go pretty far in all aspects of life.
” and you look like you were raised with no manners”
If you can’t go to HR, honestly in these situations as a fat chick I just go “uhhh, okay?” in a really alienating voice. Also seconding the asking “why?”, and making them explain what’s so funny.
If they get really pissy, you can also ask “Why are you so bothered by MY body?”. Really makes them reach for an explanation that makes them seem un-flustered. Anything really that makes them see how ridiculous they’re acting or humiliates them, is what I tend to use.
I’d go to HR. That kind of talk is absolutely not suitable for a professional workplace.
“I wouldn’t like to comment on someone’s appearance at work incase I get an invite to HR but if we’re swapping opinions, your whole vibe gives
frat boy bully. “
New Jersey response [in nice loud voice that can be heard all over the room]: With THAT nose, you’re worried about MY ass?
“NO ONE ASKED, KENNETH.”
Wait til your manager is nearby and ask him ”Hey what did you mean by [what he said] because, without a really good explanation, comments like that are unsolicited, unappreciated, inappropriate, and unprofessional.?”
Who talks like this? Who thinks this is OK to say to other people? Does this guy have parents? Because I wouldn’t have gotten away with that when I was FOUR.
But seriously, start documenting this and reporting him to HR. For all you know to the contrary, he’s harassing a dozen other people.
I vote that the next time some extremely ugly, toothless skank comes by, you tell your coworker “Hey, you look just like that guy!”
Report this to HR. No coworker should be commenting on any other coworkers body regardless of their intention, comparison, if its a compliment, an insult etc. Its inappropriate.
Go to HR immediately lol. That’s not appropriate in a work setting and it’s also rude. Talk to HR about that.. he’s probably insecure about things about himself so he wants to tear you down because that makes him feel better about himself. Men are so pathetic
Oh! You and Stacey look alike!
Stacey is blonde and blue eyes, you’re brunette with brown eyes ( as an example). No resemblance at all besides the fact that you have a similar body type.
We should say that he always looks like a guy who’s the same height!
Look at him and yell “Hi R.J!”.
The fuck? Who comments on things like looks or weight in the workplace? I could understand it if your actual doppelgänger walked through the workplace. Alternately, a polite compliment like, good job at the presentation today, is appropriate in the workplace. That’s pretty much it.
What he is doing he is not appropriate on any level. It should be reported to either your line manager or HR. Or both. He does not need to be warned before you do this. He knows it’s wrong and he assumes you are not going to do anything about it.
I had someone who did that to me and some of the women were easily 100 lbs more than me. I think he’s trying to neg you. Totally inappropriate and he seems like an ass. Can you report him to your HR department?
“What a weird thing to say out loud. Are you sure you wanted people to hear it?”
Can you go to HR? If not, catch him in the parking lot and let him know to cut the shit. Speak up for yourself and don’t take shit from nobodies.