Hey guys! Looking for some neighborly advice! My fiance and I moved in to our new apartment maybe three months the ago and everything felt great. However the neighbors above us sounded like they were throwing their whole house around and literally bowling. Some nights it would get so bad it kind of scared me because it sounds like maybe some domestic violence and since living there the cops have been called 2 times on them. When the cops were leaving I could hear them talking about how violent the man is that lives there.
My problem however is with the woman that lives there. She genuinely creeps me out. I’m very pregnant, (actually currently in labor but unable to sleep), and she always stares at my stomach then gives me this weird blank stare directly in my eyes. She speaks Spanish and though I cant understand it for the most part, I’m not fluent but my fiance is. One day when walking out to our car she asked my fiance for money which doesn’t sit right with me. Every other time I walk out of my house and she’s around she stares directly at me blankly. The other day she followed us out to our car when we were leaving the house carrying a baby doll, sat in the empty stall directly next to ours about five feet from my window and started waving then giving me that blank dead stare. Today as I’m going in to labor she’s wandering around the parking lot, until she sees us packing up our car then does the same thing, sirs in the empty stall and stares blankly at us. Today I was so pissed because I’m tired of them throwing things upstairs and staring at me that I straight up looked and her, said what? Then told her not to fucking stare at me , at which point my fiance kind of did the same thing. Oh yeah, today as I was getting the mail she was sitting on the steps which are in front of my front door and tried peaking through the gaps into our home as I was walking out.
My gut feeling tells me that she’s creepy however I don’t know if maybe she’s mentally disabled, abused or just downright stalkerish. I’m not really sure what to do about this. I will say my “feelings” about people are right 98% of the time, not exaggerating.
What would you guys do? What do you think? My mom alarm bells ring every time I see her though and I can’t stop thinking about her staring at me.
Advice? Thoughts?
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Pregnancy hormones have heightened your fear response and utterly annihilated any compassion for others.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this while heavily pregnant. I think your instincts are right on here with this couple. Unfortunately violence in their home can extend to situations with neighbors so be very cautious having any interactions with them.
I worry that when you have a baby the woman will be focused on you and the baby more. So prepare yourself with a few quick remarks to keep her away. Ask your husband to help you, sorry I don’t know Spanish at all. But the idea is the baby’s immune system is developing and we don’t want anyone outside our family touching them.
Whatever her situation is mentally, abuse, etc isn’t really yours to fix which can be a relief to you. Just act with kindness but with the ultimate importance of you and your family’s safety. If it continues to grow in concern I would move. You deserve a home with peace.
Honestly? Your gut feeling is more valuable than most people give it credit for. If your mom radar is going off, trust it
Women, as a whole, are able to detect nonverbal and emotive cues faster and more accurately than men. This is MAGNIFIED when you’re pregnant and even more so now that the little person is ready to make their big entrance.
SO…. whatever you are picking up is real.
Now I won’t tell you what I would do because I tend to be a hands on person, however, you need to do whatever makes you feel safe in your own space because frankly, living in any kind of fear or apprehension is a nonstarter for a new mom.
Be observant and stay safe. I understand feeling uneasy and not knowing the situation with her. Sounds like a mental health check needs done and the cops need to do more.
I think you should document every interaction with her, noting dates, times, and specific behaviors & then contact the non-emergency police line