DAE feel passively suicidal

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Like.. I’m not actively seeking out a way to do it. Im not scared of dying, infact, I can’t wait to die.
I’ve been this way as long as I can remember, from a young child, I don’t enjoy living, it’s too difficult, the mental torture is overwhelming sometimes

I just wish something would happen to me like a train hitting me as i drive across the crossing, or an illness and I would have no choice in the matter.

I’ve lived this way for so long, I’ve never experienced what it’s like to actually enjoy living, does anyone live that way?? It’s bizarre to me to think they do.,

Comments

  1. Round_Trainer_7498 Avatar

    Yes. I also never have enjoyed living. Even as a kid. I feel like I don’t belong or I’m in the wrong time, not supposed to be here. I don’t know how to describe it.

  2. EnnuiSprinkles Avatar

    A lot of people do. It’s not uncommon, unfortunately

  3. Winter-Owl1 Avatar

    Same. I’m 34 and have been this way most of my life (at least since around age 10/11). It gets worse at times, like where I’m constantly wishing I would die. And sometimes it’s better, like I don’t want to die but I still don’t fear it, either.

    It’s so weird to me how most people want to live, even when things are really hard for them. Like a coworker I had, she had a hard life. She was single, almost elderly, still caring for her adult son who was disabled, and also caring for her very elderly mother with dementia. She would say things like “I’m so grateful god woke me up this morning” like she was genuinely so happy to be alive every day.

    I don’t know why I can’t feel that way too. I want to love life too, but I never have and I don’t think I ever will 🙁

  4. MsBuzzkillington83 Avatar

    Yeah I’m that way, I thought it was from childhood trauma but I think my 6yo son feels the same

    Life is always just dull and grey unless I self medicate with something that makes me feel

    I think for me it’s an ADHD or autism thing (and my son)

  5. DrMantisToboggan45 Avatar

    We all feel like that bro. It’s just seeing what you can do in the meantime

  6. heytherefakenerds Avatar

    “Slow Suicide”

  7. Poetgrimaldi Avatar

    Yes, it’s why I’ve stopped taking my medications in hope of a massive heart attack

  8. the-sleepy-elf Avatar

    I used to be this way. I attempted suicide a couple times. Would cut myself routinely as a teen and into my mind 20s. Was miserable and severely depressed until late 20s. 31 now and still sometimes I struggle with mental health however I can proudly say I no longer am suicidal, I will only very rarely get the intrusive thoughts if I’m going through something triggering but otherwise I almost never have those thoughts anymore. I’m happy to be alive and I love life. I do think death will be a nice relief once it does eventually come, no more stress or anything, but, I certainly don’t wanna die anytime soon cuz I like getting to experience life.

  9. gobstopper84 Avatar

    I tell my therapist that I don’t want to kill myself.. but I don’t want to be here anymore. Some days I wish I could disappear

  10. ChefArtorias Avatar

    Sounds like you’re experiencing some blend of depression and suicidal ideation. I’ve felt for most of my life. In fact I’d consider it my baseline but may slip in to a deeper depression where I am actually verging suicidal for a few months a year. (save me your reddit cares crap. It doesn’t help and is just annoying)

    Take care of yourself and don’t neglect your mental health. Maybe seek therapy because although I can relate to not really feeling happy ever it’s definitely not “normal” and we deserve to feel better.

  11. _mmEmm_ Avatar

    Yes. It’s less “passive” now then ever, and I’m constantly on the precipice of just doing it myself. Like, why not. The tides will come and go either way. I remember even trying to choke myself as a kid just because. Annoyed wouldn’t be the right word, maybe impatient?

    Like, I’ve done my best to appreciate nature and life, done stupid (but interesting?? lol) things, accomplished stuff, fucked up x10^10, traveled, etc. But I’m done with dealing with my own self. I’m tired of living in my brain.

    Anyway, sorry, that may have been tmi, all to say: yes lol

  12. Massive_Honeydew7056 Avatar

    “I’m not scared of dying, in fact, I can’t wait to die.” I’ve felt like this since I was 13. I’m not trying to end things, but this is exhausting, and surely whatever is next will be less….this.

  13. blergargh Avatar

    As long as I can remember. “Or maybe I’ll just kill myself” is a sentence I say after WAY too many things. My therapist is aware and didn’t try to have me committed.

  14. Comments_Wyoming Avatar

    Doesn’t everybody?
    Like, I would never jump in front of a bus, but if a runaway bus was headed for me….I probably wouldn’t jump out of the way either.

    That’s normal, right?

  15. SummertimeThrowaway2 Avatar

    I’m kind of the opposite, I enjoy living but all the suffering and hardship makes it hard to keep going. Like same reasons as you but different kinda? It’s hard to explain.

    (I’m not actively suicidal rn don’t send any Reddit cares things lmao)

  16. 4everSlooty Avatar

    Consistently 🤷‍♀️🙇‍♀️

  17. No-Association2617 Avatar

    They always ask “ do you have a plan”,.. dude?, I have like 56 plans… just waiting for the stars to align & make it look like an accident…

  18. notthatkindofmagic Avatar

    I’m coming up on 60 and I recently thought this through.

    I never hated being alive. It was never so hard that I couldn’t see continuing, but lately I’ve been thinking about it ending and I realized it would be a huge relief.

    I don’t want to rush it, but I’m not afraid of it, and I’m not running from it. I feel like I’ll be just fine with it when it happens.

  19. Alternative_Lack22 Avatar

    Been living that feeling since teenage years. Especially now that I’m old, I’ve had everything good life can give me, I’m ready to leave.

  20. Lizzyluvvv Avatar

    Ahhh quiet quitting life 😂Sad that you have that feeling so young . This fucked up world 🙁

  21. dizzzyartist Avatar

    Yep. I’ve felt this way for as long as I can remember. I turn 27 this year.

  22. Terugtrekking Avatar

    yeah, like I’d never do it, but I wouldn’t mind, I wouldn’t “fight for my life” if anything happened to me. I don’t have any dependents and I don’t have much to live for.

  23. TragicButterfly1406 Avatar

    Yes, me everyday. I’m always thinking about wanting to die but I’ll probably never be brave enough to even attempt suicide. It just hurts tho… Cuz I have an empty life and I regret lots of things and wish I could start my life over from a young age. :'(

  24. Welcometothemaquina Avatar

    I feel actively suicidal

  25. Cutthechitchata-hole Avatar

    I used to be this way for a long time. Then I started psychedelic meds and meditation

  26. Odd-Refrigerator-592 Avatar

    Can I ask what makes you feel this way? Loneliness? Financial issues?