so I’m a 26yo woman and honestly the only time I actually feel urges is usually during my ovulation week. the rest of the month I’m pretty much completely uninterested in sex and as such never felt much need or motivation to go and seek out someone to be with, despite being single for 5 years now.
normally i wouldn’t find casual and PG mentions of sex disturbing or anything but I was scrolling on instagram just now and came across a reel making a descriptive joke about oral (someone “eating a woman’s juices like ice cream”) and I almost threw up. It wasn’t supposed to be anything extreme I think but it grossed me out so badly.
does anyone else feel this way? hearing about sex when I’m not in that one week ovulation window to me has the same effect as someone mentioning bodily fluids when you’re eating. Like, if I absolutely do not want to hear anything too descriptive it makes me want to throw up – like I actually find it repulsive 😭
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An antidepressant caused my sex drive to take a nose dive. I’m largely content with not correcting this. There are random times where the mere thought of sex makes me feel unwell. There are other random times where I feel broken because I’m just not feeling what I should.
Nah that’s just you fam
No. Sex and everything about it is glorious
I mean, I felt that way for many years when I was pretending to be straight. Long story. Have you talked to a doctor to maybe check your hormones? There’s lots of things that can impact libido. There are people who are asexual and that’s fine too. Basically what I’m saying is there could be a lot of explanations for the way that you feel and I would encourage you to explore. If you want to.
There are people that are Asexual that feel no sexual attraction to other people. They still feel love, and can even feel romantic love, just not attraction.
There are people that are Aromantic, which means they only feel sexual attraction/ desire for people that they are romantically in love with.
You may feel one of those, or you may have something different than that.
The only feeling horny while your ovulating is probably just a biological desire to have a kid. Not that you intellectually or emotionally want one, it’s just a prima, subconscious thing.
Not a Doctor, therapist or anything like that. Just know that you’re feelings are valid.
You should look up some of the terms to see if you fit one or at least a you can have a better understanding of what you’re experiencing and can also maybe talk to others that also feel that way
Edit: I’m bad with the terms, the comment below has the correct terminology.
I have the same response and I attribute it to my being asexual. F/62
Yes, I have bad arousal non-concordance. The only way I’ve been aroused is when I’m about to pee, ovulating, and when I’m on my period. Other than that, very rarely have I been aroused.
A lot of the time, I see a sex scene from a movie or hear about sex, I just feel so disgusted, and I genuinely cringe so hard for some reason. Even though I have nothing against sex, I just can’t stop feeling this way.
That’s me, like I still get horny and feel attracted to people, but I really feel repulsed at the idea of actually having sex with somebody. I don’t know if I would go as far as saying I’m asexual, but I’d say I’m in a similar category which for me seems to be getting stronger as I get older.
not everyone is into sex lol.
im fine with the concept of sex but penetration itself is unnerving imo. I highly prefer erotic stuff that have nothing to do with that.
you might be somewhere in or around the asexual spectrum tbh. Do check it out.
Nobody says you have to be turned on by the thought or sight of sex, just like some people don’t like certain genres of music.
However, for your own curiosity (and ours) a hormonal blood test would be interesting to see if that is affecting your thoughts on sex.
I was with a woman who was very horny for like 3 days of her cycle. Grouchy if she wasn’t getting it, and the rest of the time was certainly at the bottom of priorities (albeit I wouldn’t say she was repulsed by the idea). She got blood work and had low testosterone and estrogen.
The thing is if you require hormonal therapy, it can improve many aspects of your life (if you’re dialed in), not just improve your thoughts about sex and your libido.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
Yes, lots of people feel this way. There’s asexuality for lack of attraction, and also sex repulsion, which are two things that have a venn diagram overlap
hiii respectfully,
you might be ace 🩵
I used to think I was hypersexual, but the idea of having sex now (I’m 32) literally disgusts me. I enjoy masturbating occasionally, but it’s very transactional with myself, just get it done, then get back to whatever I was doing, so maybe I’m just grossed out by people?
Sex drive has a lot to do with health. Are you fat/eating unhealthy? (This applies to men and women, I’m not trying to call you out because you’re a woman)
I only feel interested in sex when I think about having it with my wife. But I do have a dirty mind and will eat those juices like ice cream or honey. Sorry op, didn’t mean to make you feel any way.
I used to be okay with it, repulsed by sexual comments directed at others, like in shows and movies, but interested in participating in sex with my partner, but only really when they initiated. Ever since I started taking Estrogen, however, my libido’s tanked and even thinking about sex makes me feel icky. I’m repulsed by it almost like OP, but im absolutely fine with it, as is my partner. Prefer things this way, actually.
I don’t like the idea of sex nor the mentioning there of. The basic idea of it doesn’t fit tight in my mind and I’ve identifying myself in the asexual spectrum for quite a while now… I believe it’s normal to feel the way you do cuz not everthing is for everyone
A lot of people will suggest asexuality, so I won’t and just say..
The only time in my life that I felt an almost nonexistent libido was when I was on hormonal birth control. When I stopped taking it, it was like a fog lifted and my sexuality was clearer than ever. So I would maybe consider if you have a hormone imbalance of some kind.
Also you may have some kind of programming from childhood that grosses you out about bodily fluids. I’ve definitely had that a bit. Sticky. Slimy. Still, they are an incredibly natural fact of existing. Ya know?
33f, im ace and this is how I feel. I thought I was broken for a long time and dint understand how my friends did what they did so I pretended and did things I didnt even understand why people liked. I was grossed out but I also felt like ‘what do I do with my hands!’, I wasn’t even sure if I was doing it right or convincingly enough, then it kinda clicked that maybe I wasnt broken. I found asexual subreddits and told a few people. Anywho, my husband and I have been together 10 years and he’s not ace but he understands me. I say that to say it doesn’t mean being alone like I thought it did. ❤️💜🩷🩵🧡💙💛💚
Could be slightly asexual, could be a hormonal issue, I’d get checked just in case.
Was it always like this or is it a more recent development?
Love to know more. Wife and a FWB going through this to different levels and stuff
No. Just you and my wife, apparently.
Completely normal.. Sex is gross, and people are even grosser. I can’t tell if it’s my general distain of others (remnant of the pandemic), or the Prozac. I still get horny, and find women attractive. But I’ve lost all drive for the hunt. I’ve already procreated. My purpose here is done. Now I have 100% of my time to give to my kid and I wouldn’t trade it for another women who won’t appreciate me.
I love sex, it’s incredibly fun and it feels great. But I get repulsed by the idea of people seeing and touching my naked body. The insecurity and embarrassment overrides any level of horniness and can be really upsetting a lot of the time.
Love sex, but that reel sounds fucking gross.
I am uninterested by it but am unsure why
My ex (we broke up a couple of weeks ago after being together for three years) used to regularly want intimacy and would initiate it herself. But after about a year into the relationship, she stopped showing initiative and just «allowed» me to make moves on her – and if I didn’t, we basically just lived together like roommates. She’d only initiate sex about once a month(here is ovulation, hehe 🙁 )
I don’t know exactly why things changed, but we did talk about it and even went to couples therapy. We eventually traced it back to her starting oral hormonal contraceptives – during that period, she didn’t want sex at all but went along with it out of habit, and later began to feel like I was assaulting her. Even after she stopped taking the pills, that perception of me stuck because the pattern had already formed.
bro im the same way. i like to attribute my swag to it if im being honest