I’m 18F, idk if I’m overreacting but everyone else around me has/had someone who they love/loved. Sometimes I feel like I’m really ugly and unlovable and at the same time i can’t imagine myself in a relationship and doing all those sweet shits. I hate when I see someone on a call with their gf/bf and think it’s cringe. I’m a very introverted and a really awkward person and idk how to talk well either. And all these factors combined makes me feel alienated and thus make me feel like I’ll never find someone I love or someone who loves me.
Is this normal?
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Its normal to feel that way at that age. I felt the same way, but a few years later I started to date and am now married
18 YO is still really young when it comes to getting into a relationship. I saw so many people in high school in relationships and never thought it happen to me, but it did.
It’s normal to feel like that even in a relationship you could still have the same feeling it’s just important to understand that some people are more performative with their affection but you can be just as happy if not more
Im 23
And yes. I do.
I felt the same way when I was 18.
When I was 13.
When I was 7.
It probably will never change, but I think if we work on it, anything is possible. Find a good therapist. Tell them you want to change the way you feel about yourself, even if you dont want to.
I hope you get there. Everyone deserves love.
It’s normal. Go to college if you can swing it. That matured me and helped me become myself more than anything else I ever did. You’ll begin to feel more confident, more self-loving, more capable of managing life. In college you learn about the world: other people, other cultures, other ways of thinking and being. You learn to navigate all kinds of situations that scared you before. You get to work on yourself, which is what your highest focus should be right now. Friendships, both platonic and romantic, will happen organically. You won’t have to force them, and they’ll be real. Work on you. Work on learning everything you can about everything you can get your hands on. You’ll mature and become more of who you want to be. And people will want relationships with that person.
Yeah, took me until my late 30s to even start getting over that.
Get ready for weird DMs…. 😂😂
I love your honesty.
I think at some time, you will find that ability. Unplanned, unexpected…
I’m much much older than you, just be openminded. Sharing your life with someone you never expected to meet is awesome.
I’m around, if you need to hear a reminder ~ 😘
Always
I’m 39 and feel this way.
Well i can’t relate right now but I can relate myself 3 years back me with you
Emotionally stale
Didn’t believe in love or emotions and all
Thought I won’t ever be in a relationship bcuz it’s just a distraction
And never gonna marry bcuz it will just distribute my future earnings
Boring
Unlovable
Hell i was looking like malnourished kid
And for me girls never gave me a look even
But things change ,life is unpredictable
Sometimes it just takes a full 180 and baam u will be thinking what that actual shit happened with me
When I was 18, I had never had a boyfriend or even a close male friend. I could barely talk to guys, lived in hoodies and jeans, didn’t wear makeup, and rarely looked in the mirror. Now at 23, I have a loving boyfriend and truly love how I look and feel in my body. It took time to get here. Even though you’re considered an adult at 18, you’re still growing mentally, emotionally, and physically. It’s completely normal to feel insecure during that time, but those negative thoughts about yourself don’t have to control you. You are a beautiful person who deserves love just like anyone else. Try not to compare yourself to others and focus on building confidence and self-love. Love will come when the time is right, and when it does, you’ll be ready for it. Even if you had a partner now, it would be hard to fully connect if you don’t feel secure in yourself, because insecurity can slowly damage a relationship. What you’re feeling is valid, but it doesn’t define you. Focus on your own growth, your health, and your relationship with yourself first, and everything else will start to fall into place.