Does anybody else go through life feeling not your age… I’m (f) 37, decent job, kids, happily married but on certain days I still feel like I’m a young 20something year old still trying to figure out my life. When something goes wrong or specifically I do something wrong I’m just like “oh well I’m just a 20something year old girly trying to figure it out”… do we ever figure it out?
Edit: Comforting to know I’m not the only one that feels this way!
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yes i feel like i am 12 and im 30 i literally dont think i understand how to be an adult sometimes becuase i still treat the world the same as i did when i was young and also my mom still says shes 21 and shes like 45 i feel like u can say ur whatever age u feel like. i personally dont say i feel 12 but thats how old i feel lol
Yep. About to be 35. Don’t feel like a normal functioning adult.
Actually, 37 feels like the new 25 these days.
I mean, sure, you’re probably paying off a mortgage and driving an SUV to soccer practice, but that doesn’t stop your inner 20-something from screaming “Let’s party!” every Friday night… and then promptly passing out at 9pm because hello, aging body
I feel like I am 86 years old.
I am not anywhere near 86 years old.
56m
My wife and I don’t have any kids, so I never had to become a disciplinarian, so I’m still an energetic and happy guy.
Age is a concept! I’m 22 and I feel 10 and also 30 at the same time.
Which is crazy bc I’ve never even been 30.
I’m not sure I’ve ever felt a specific age or known what I was meant to be feeling…I think I was just a very anxious/serious child and now I’m a more chill adult so maybe it’s evened out over the span of my life haha
I’m the other way around I’m 27 but I feel 40
I’m 30 and I still feel I’m in my early 20s
Im a 16 yr. old trapped in an old persons body!
ALL THE TIME. I was hoping I’d feel like a real adult at 50, but it didn’t happen.
Hello everyone! I’ll be 50 in 2 days. I feel like I’m 80. That’s a result of taking care of a special needs child for 30 years and becoming disabled myself.
Take care everyone!
Absolutely. I’m 23 but I feel 16. I’ve honestly never met anyone who truly felt the exact age they were
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I’m 52 and feel very young. I’m mostly around my kids and their friends and I’ll be hanging out and talking and mid sentence it will hit me that what they see is an old woman. It kinda makes me not talk so much because I remember not really caring about what old people had to say when I was young
Not to throw psychology into the mix but I felt this way for a long time. I went to therapy, after a few years we stalled and I did a psych eval and was diagnosed with CPTSD.. where you kinda get “stuck” at hard points in your life.
You guys are cracking me up. You’re 37 and you feel 20? For one thing, everyone’s different. but it just means you’re healthy and probably get plenty of sleep, or don’t need much sleep, or whatever, and eat right and life is good. Enjoy it while you can!
Yeah, I’m 35 and I feel like a teen sometimes. I read somewhere that we often feel an age we were when something big or traumatic happened to us. And while I know it’s not the case for everyone , I didn’t really have anything traumatic happen but I often feel like I’m still 18.
I guess getting married and pregnant right out of high school after never really dating could do that to you. 🤷♀️
I know you feel young / like a baby adult. But I promise you, hang around some 20-23yo ppl, and you’ll be like ohhhhh nvm 🫠
I’m the exact same as you – 37f, solid job, 3 kids, happily married w a house and 2 dogs. I still feel like I’m in my early 20’s. I go about daily life, then boom it hits me like “damn I’m almost 40.” We are very lucky to have our lives in good order and still feel like we’re 15+ years younger. High five to us honestly. 😝🙌
I have the body of a 50 year old and the sense of humor of a 12 year old.
Completely opposite for me. I am in my mid-twenties and feel already worn down by life.
I turn 37 this year and still feel like I just turned 30. The only time I feel old is when I go through a strenuous day of work and my body aches, or a younger person in their mid to early 20s doesn’t get a reference that I made because they’re too young
Absolutely! I’m almost 47. We don’t look a thing like “middle-aged” people used to maybe 20-30 years ago. We still look like we’re in our early thirties. Very different attitudes, too. We have definitely grown wise in our age, but most of us still have a very young at heart outlook. My generation is X, but I’m also part of a micro-generation called Xennials. Our entire group essentially feels and acts like we’re still in our twenties. We still dress that way, too. When I take a step back to realize my actual age, I’m blown away every time.
(52F) Yes. I’ve always felt younger than my age and I’ve always had friends and relationships 5-10 years younger than myself. I certainly don’t have it all figured out.
It’s jarring to look in the mirror and see wrinkles on my face.
I’m a 44m and still feel like I’m in my 20’s. Well, except for my back lol
I never really cared about age and stuff, but I recently turned 40, but inside I feel like I haven’t changed since high school, lol. Seriously though, I still feel like a crazy kid, and the stoner hippie in my never left, nor the weird artist guy – that said, I am finally feeling older and it’s because of my body. I try to work out and walk daily, but my back and knees just aren’t the same. I get anxiety which never happened when I was young. Also, I get tired some days which is WEIRD for me, lol.
So yea, it’s odd right now because physically I am feeling older and my body is changing, but in my head I’m a crazy 18 year old who wants to just ignore the real world, “adulting”, and have fun all the time, ha.
I’m 30 and I feel 24-25! I think it’s because I’m about to graduate (PhD) and I haven’t kick started my career yet! My long term partner is about to move in and I will start my first real job in 9 years (I’ve been in school from 22-30 bachelors -> PhD) so yeah! I feel like I’m behind but young HA
I’m 34 and feel like I’m about 16.
Yep. I’m 47 (i think!). My brain is still 20, which is hard as my body isn’t.
I’m almost 42 and feel about 28.
Oh hell yeah, all the time! I feel like I’m in my early 20s still, or even younger, and I’m gonna turn 28 this year
54 and still not sure what I want to do with my life when I grow up, hehe.
as a 20 something girly (26 going on 27 next month) who just asked her therapist this same question last week, i’m feeling very seen 😂 i often get my age wrong (went into a smoke shop one time at the age of 24 going on 25 and accidentally told the guy i was 18 🫢🤭), but i will say, im much more excited for my 30s than some of the other 20 something’s i’ve been around. i don’t think we ever truly feel our age, that’s gotta be our inner child. 🤍
I feel about 30 years older than what I really am.
33F and I feel like I’m still somewhere in my early (MAYBE) mid-20s.
Can’t ever see it changing though
70+ and think I’m in better shape than many others my age. It’s not because I exercise, but I suspect genetics. I do stay busy, volunteering when and where I can. I enjoy running errands – have done grocery shopping as long as I’ve been married – nearly 50 years. Still take care of our yard.
Yes, I’m 53 but still feel like I’m in my 20’s, in my head. My body says otherwise
Yes. I’m 30f with 2 young kids and I still feel like a dumb 16yo all the time.
As another 37-year-old I often find myself turning to look for an experienced adult at work only to realize I AM the experienced adult. But I literally don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago. I expected to be so wise and mature by this point. Instead I’m still spending my evenings eating pizza and playing video games or binge watching anime episodes like it’s still 2006. The only difference between me now and me from 15 years ago is bad knees, digestive issues, and I fall asleep in my rocking chair by 9:30 PM instead of AM 😂
44 here. I feel both old and like I’m still 20 at the same time. I do feel the perspective that my years on this earth has brought me – the me in the present is a lot wiser than the me of 20 years ago. At the same time, I feel like I’ve only just started my life. Like I’m the person I wish I was in my 20s, which is to say that I would do certain things differently and feel prepared for opportunities that have since passed me by.
I probably think about it a little too much – I do have a tendency to ruminate. But I think the experience is common. I don’t think my 90 year old grandfather felt 90. In fact I know he didn’t.
I’m 35 and live with my parents still. My partner is 34 also still lives with his family and siblings. He’s the youngest.
I work in the legal field and he’s in retail. We’re not sure what it’s supposed to feel like being in our 30’s because we actively go to theme parks, enjoy museums and concerts, and actively collect figures (like Labubus). We also love going places where we have to cosplay.
I’m not sure what our 30’s are supposed to feel like. o_o;
I‘m turning 36 and people in my age are fucking boring
46f and I’m a child. Clueless. Impulsive. I’m a functioning adult, but I don’t feel like an adult.
figure what out?
life doesn’t stop throwing new challenges at you
you either learn from experience or you don’t, it really varies
I am 74. Mind still feels like I did in my 20’s except for having walking issues from an accident.
Don’t deal with a lot of people my own age. Prefer younger people who’s brains haven’t petrified yet.
I’m 33 and I oscillate between feeling 19 most of the time, and occasionally like a 60 year old who wasted their life and never did anything meaningful (which is hard not to do sometimes when you see people at the peak of their dynamic selves at this age if they actually went to college, graduated at 22, and actually have a career they’ve been cultivating for the past 10 years, or like just got out of medical school and are killing it).
I’m almost 50. I feel about 20 mentally and 75 physically.
38, no kids. Caught myself smiling in a mirror today and wondered where all those lines around my eyes came from. Still feel like I’m fooling my way thru my professional career.
69 but seem 35. Just before covid I’d go dancing all night, usually there at closing and a few all nite after parties as well. None of my friends knew my real name or my age. Crazy trip for about 5 years. I jyst never wanted to grow up, so I didn’t. Didn’t ever seem like magic, but here I am wondering how.
36 and i physically feel 70 like a sack of skin full of molasses
I am 67. Still the happy lil hippie I was from the age of 13. I have been married twice to very conservative men one much older and when he died one much younger. I have one son he is a straight arrow investment banker. I feel no different than I did (mentally) than I did in my twenties. Smarter,yes. But I still have a spirit of optimism no matter the circumstances and I still dress like a Stevie Nicks wannabe. I retired from my job with US Social Security at age 51 and have been selling vintage in an antique mall ever since. Life is good. I imagine I won’t be any different when I die hopefully at no younger than 80.
Yes. Every F*cking Day. Especially when I get carded by people 15 years younger than me. I’m 38 for christ sakes!
I am you. Sometimes i feel dissociated from everything because its hard to wrap my mind around that I am 40. I still feel somewhere between 15 and 35. I
It feels like I stopped aging around Covid. I still catch myself before saying my age because my automatic is “Oh I’m 16,” not 22… 23 in Sept. 🫠🫠🫠
Lol im 40 and feel like 20.
Just bought my first place
Just finally in a serious relations (4 years now)
Just feeling good in my new career (2 years in now)
Just starting to save and invest (fu trump)
I seriously feel like im just starting life
I’m 55. I’m constantly trying to understand the world like my 18 year old self. I’m unsuccessful and that confuses me.
Considering I just went through another mid life crisis at 14 this morning, i’ll say yes
I’m also 37, (m), with a 16yo son. Never married. I feel like I stopped growing up at 18 or so. I was a great parent to a baby, a toddler, a 10yo. Now I feel like I don’t know how to teach nphim anything else, because we’re practically the same age. I feel like he doesn’t take me seriously, or anyone else for that matter. I dont fit in with people my age. Men think im a joke, women treat me like a kid. I’m fairly intelligent, confident, well spoken. I’m experienced in many areas, like construction work, the trades. I’m musically talented. But being 5’8″, feels like i never grew up. I don’t get looked at as a “man”, but more like a kid.
I’m 28 and have been wondering when I’ll start feeling like an adult since I turned 21. Still feel like just a kid, the only really noticeable change I can say that’s happened is people who are older than me (30 – 50?) Talk to me the same way they talk to people in their age range which to me is kind of validating.
I stopped getting older at about 25.
My mum always told me, you never stop wanting mummy when times get hard. She’s the most stoic person I know btw, very unemotional type. But she’s right, I go right back to baby when shit hits the fan.
In general though, I definitely feel younger than my age, but I think that’s a good thing! Dressing younger than your age helps a lottttt.
I’m 76 and still have all my hippie ways. My 40 year old kids say I wear rose-colored glasses, but I say there’s nothing wrong about finding things that are beautiful in their own special way. And learning people are the same no matter what country.
I believe that love is still the answer. I don’t believe there are rules anywhere saying a person has to act,dress, talk or live in a certain way whatever age they are. As we age we get wiser if we choose to learn and hang on to our curiosity.
It’s all of us making decisions for ourselves and not caring what other people believe we should be.