I could be making a plethora of excuses in this regards but the one I feel most strongly about is my utter lack of desire to plant roots in the place I live. Is that weird?
The relationships I have had in the past have always been a result of travel and studying elsewhere, but this was ~4 years ago now. The pandemic, and a family death, brought me back to my home town — which has been fine — but I find myself completely unenthused about putting myself out there here if it means making a move elsewhere more difficult.
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A little yeah, as long as you’re open about your goals with your partner then that shouldn’t be a problem
Thank you for this honesty! I’m dealing with this exact issue right now. I left my hometown for a few years and came back, and and realizing although I have good memories I also have some very bad ones and I don’t think I’ll be able to grow and evolve and be content unless I explore elsewhere
I moved from Chicago to a rural southern state and I absolutely can’t find a single person I’m attracted to physically and lifestyle wise.
I have never had a unique experience it seems
Yes I can really identify with this
Same
Yes! (I am not convinced about the quality of men where I live …. from the first day I moved here, there was something in the water). I am planning on moving back to the city I love when I am done here (unless it makes sense to go someplace else, but I am very partial to only certain places). Plus, I have first hand experience knowing I do not want to put down roots here. My ex bought the perfect little house by woods and a creek and a trail. It was also walkable to a small city (which is to die for). He begged me to move in, but I could not commit because I need to live elsewhere.
Yeah I’m moving out of state and have been planning on for years. It’s the main reason I don’t date.
It’s a valid choice; I did date someone when I was actively job searching for Academic Library positions and had an understanding that I would move wherever there was work to be had. Wound up getting hired by a University in North Texas that necessitated a move back to Denton, TX where I originally got my library degree. The woman I was dating and I agreed that we didn’t want to try to maintain a long distance relationship but breaking up with her still hurt/sucked because otherwise we got along pretty well. I moved to Denton and worked there for 2 years. If I had stayed we might’ve married but she did have 3 big dogs I found very intimidating that were basically her fur-children so maybe not. Also, I might’ve resented her subconsciously if my library job search locally never panned out. We had fun while it lasted but maybe I should’ve just stayed single, knowing I was probably going to move eventually. I was very up front about that from the start but it still sucked for us both in the end.
Yes, but it’s not the main reason I don’t date. I live in an area where young people don’t like to stay if they can help it. My house, career and family are all here so I’m just making the most out of it. And since I have a lot going on in my personal life, dating isn’t really something I pay a lot of mind to.
O yah! The selection is laughable. Just CCs of everything unattractive. I’m only here for fam and will be gone as soon as that obligation is.
Not me but a friend. She couldn’t settle here and wasn’t interested in a boyfriend. She finally took a job in Colorado and almost immediately found a boyfriend, quickly got married and had two babies.
I had this too! Sometimes it’s not even the quality of people I just don’t understand why people continue dating when they have plans to move. Maybe it’s because I’m avoidant but if I know something won’t end well then I just don’t do it.
I wouldn’t say it’s the area I live in but I’ve had some interesting relationships just everyone is from somewhere else also
Dating foreigners be it another state or country particularly well traveled women have always been a go to for me and not only do I like them but they like me back also
I get along with them better and more intimately than locals for sure
I also just moved back to my hometown during the pandemic after extended traveling for my work so yes I get that
I think about this all the time.
I LOVE where I live; it’s the dating pool I question, lol. I’m just taking the loss because I really love the area so I guess I’ll be single for a long, long time.
My exact situation right now, my main NYE resolution for this year is to get a new job and move by the end of the year (hopefully).
i dunno if that’s weird.