I’ve been seeing this guy for like 6 months (I know). And it’s going just fine, but I was curious about if he was ever going to make things official/wanted to. He told me he was waiting for the day we met to come back around (WHICH IS IN DECEMBER) to ask me out on that day. A whopping 7 months down the road. Weird or am I tweakin?
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12 months to be Official as a couple? Even job probation periods are only 3 months Avg LOL. You not tweaking, ur guy is tweakin
Just ask directly where you 2 are at currently and if he is not serious about this relationship let’s not waste more time and part ways. If not, more time wasting down the road and you will prolly regret even more stuff later on
Tell him it’s sweet that he’s trying to be romantic with that anniversary, but it doesn’t feel as kind or cute as he’s intending.
Be honest with your needs and feelings, but show understanding for his stated (if misguided) plans.
Set some boundaries for yourself. Your boundaries include your time and energy. IMO, this sounds ridiculous. If you’re not official, for the most part, I assume you’re not exclusive. You’re basically fwb. You’re not tweakin, but on the other hand, you’re also leaving this decision entirely up to him. You asked him if/ when he was going to, but have you asked yourself about the timeline and pace that you need and want? This varies for everyone, depending on what they’re looking for and the stage of life they’re in.
Personally, I wouldn’t want to entertain someone for 6mo if it hadn’t become an official relationship, I just don’t have the energy to give to situationships and be one of many to them. If you want to make this official with him, take him out on a date and ask. Not asking if he is going to, but you telling him that you would like to make this official and deepen, and solidify your bond.
If that’s what you want and need- something more serious and committed- make that clear. A relationship takes two, and has to meet both peoples needs. If only one person can make the decision, then there’s a power imbalance, and he’s just stringing you along because you’re not going to leave. If he declines making it official, I honestly doubt he ever will, and I’d suggest breaking up and finding someone who is looking for the same level of relationship you are.
Waiting to make you his gf ?? Yeah, uh no. He could be trying to be thoughtful. But unless this is his first relationship, that wouldn’t be necessary. Maybe giving you a promise ring or something cute like that on the anniversary of making things official would be a thing but wait to actually be girlfriends and boyfriends after 3 months of dating would be the longest. Otherwise it giving inexperienced OR not committed. Did you ask why he wanted to wait til the one year mark? Has the intentions of your relationship been discussed since day one? Bc it’s the nature is sexual, it’s FWB right now.
Those are my initials thoughts but now I realize perceptions is an individual thing, and that could play a part in this as well.
If you don’t mind me asking, day to day what are the interactions y’all have ? Is he good to you? Has the relationship moved smoothly without any major hiccups?