Today’s dating culture has gotten way too shallow and materialistic. The idea of ‘leagues’ when it comes to dating is stupid. I get not wanting to date someone completely broke/unemployed and not looking for a job or someone who lacks basic personal hygiene, or if you’re just really not attracted to someone at all, but other than that, I feel that people should just give other people who aren’t the richest, most attractive etc. a chance.
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This definitely isn’t unpopular
I could be wrong here, but that tends to be what most folks look for, yeah? It’s not exactly common for shallow and/or materialistic people to work out.
Dating is about all that if you are trying to have a long term relationship. I don’t think anyone serious is actually only trying to go out with the richest most attractive.
But I also think attraction is important. I was attracted to my girlfriend because she’s intelligent, funny, creative, kind, empathetic, artistic and so much more, but she’s also gorgeous and I don’t think it’s shallow for me to be attracted to her physically too.
Then I hope you’re okay with not having sex and enjoying eachothers personality.
This sounds like ramblings of an incel who wants to date models but keep getting rejected
You still need to be attracted to your partner and like how they look
This is an incel mindset ngl.
Most of the girls out there are as lonely and awkward as you are. Just go talk to them.
Looks, and to some extent money isn’t shallow. Looks indicates genetic quality and health which means healthier children, remember that’s the end goal of dating to continue the human race. Money is the same, you need a decent income to support a family.
They should be about them all.
Looks are shallow if that’s all you care about but basic biology pushes us to at elast be attracted to them. Everything else needs to come WITH that too.
And money can jut be practical, I don’t want to date someone that I’m going to have to support. Oh great they’re funny and intelligent and meet the other criteria, but my wage isn’t going to stretch to 2 people, I need you to be able to support yourself. And some people want a life, they want to go on Holidays, buy a nice house in a safe area to raise children in and have plenty resources to make sure they have everything they need, take them to fun after school clubs, invest in their future and everything. With that, comes money.
If, if it’s just “I hope they’re hot and can buy me things” then yes it’s 100% shallow. But if you want them to be hot, while also contributing to the household while having good future prospects while also being funny, smart, caring etc then where’s the shallow?
>, I feel that people should just give other people who aren’t the richest, most attractive etc. a chance.
Wtf……
Majority of the population aren’t richest and most attractive and they still date. I mean, I’ve seen my good looking friends date guys who look questionable. So clearly you don’t have to be the MOST attractive or richest.
And I say the same to guys too, they’re only after attractive girls and get annoyed when attractive people prefer other attractive people.
And what “chance” are you talking about ? Ewww that sounds weird. People will date you if they’re attracted to you and like you, you don’t go around giving random people “chances”. It’s not a game or a competition.
Groom yourself well, be confident, don’t have an incel mindset and see people as humans instead of a potential partner all the time.
Don’t be desperate and work on yourself.
By work on your self, I mean, work on your body, work on being emotionally aware and mature, develop confidence but not cockiness, work on your career, have a personality. You’ll attract the right kind then. Desperation will drive people away and make you bitter.
Don’t whine about people having preferences.
Lmao, anyways
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People forget that attraction is still primarily based on genetic compatibility for the production of offspring. It’s easy to forget in the modern world, but you can’t ignore hundreds of thousands of years of evolution that dictates who you are attracted to, even if you believe it to be morally incorrect.
Being attractive to people you’re attracted to takes a lot of hard work. It forces you to face the hypocrisy you hide from. True matches are few and far between.