I am the daughter (53F) of a narcissistic mother. My mother (75F) is slowly dying from cancer. She is in a nursing home. My sister (45F) is the main contact but she relies on me for guidance in the final stages for our mother. Ask me anything!
Daughter of a dying narcissistic mother AMA
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Has her narcissism caused you distress to the point you wish she would hurry up and be unalived already?
You’re 53… let it go
What’s the worst behavior has she exhibited and what did you do to insulate yourself from her behavior?
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May I ask how you were or have been able to be the person who could continue to give care to someone so awful. I didn’t talk to my narcissistic mother for the last 19 yrs of her life ..and when I found out she had terminal cancer- nothing made me want to re-open that Portal with her.
I waited until she passed and went to help her sister (my aunt) recover from a second hip surgery, instead of visit my mother while she was dying (she was only less than 10 miles away from my aunt) .
What gives you the desire or heart to give that care to her? Respectfully, of course. 💖
Will you see her before she goes much ?
How is your mom’s narcissism relevant?
Has your mom ever said “I love you” to any of her kids or grandkids?
If you have children, how has the way you were raised influenced how you raise(d) them?
In the future, would you ever write a book about your life growing up with a narcissistic parent?
Has she ever apologised for anything ever? My father is a narcissist and it’s not something he’s ever done
Oof
Who’s in charge of the end of life decision?
Have you discussed her wishes as far as to be kept around, even if her quality of life is further diminished or to “pull the plug”?
Did your sister volunteer to be the main contact or was the responsibility thrust upon her?